Dang! OP jumped the shark.

OP,

I was angry on your behalf in your original thread, but your whining here is beyond petty. Different people have different customs. I don't expect guests to lift a finger in my house, and would prefer them not to strip their beds. The Play-Doh is unfortunate and annoying, but really, who cares? Their greatest crime by far is dropping by unannounced.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are your napkins folded?

I was wondering the same thing.

Huh? I don't get it. Not op but of course the cloth ones are. What am I missing?

I always strip the bed when we leave our in-laws' place. Often I will launder the sheets too...

Anonymous wrote:Are your napkins folded?

I was wondering the same thing.

OP this would really upset me but I would rather the bed to be left unmade than for it to be made then I have to strip it to change the bedsheets. I am also particular how it is made so if someone can't change the linens and make it my way I would rather they don't do it. I once had a friend stay over for a week she made the bed and I though that was very dump... As in, did she expect another guest to sleep on the same linens?? I am usually very straigh forward so I told her I was putting no new linens so making the bed was not necessary. A few weeks ago when I hosted my in-laws I told them not to make the bed the day they were leaving. I however expected the room neat at all times during their stay... We are neat freaks and so are they.

Since your in-laws were uninvited guests, this is very rude for them to leave a mess. This is extra work for you. I would say something but that is just me. The next time you visit them leave a big dump in the toilet lol

Anonymous wrote:Some people think it is more polite to leave the sheets on the bed with the bed made because then they can wash the sheets when they get around to it rather than having an unmade bed.

This. You either make the bed or strip the bed- both are equally acceptable.

Anonymous wrote:Calling out ILs on their lack of manners when you can't even remember what the fuck they did on a previous visit?

Madame, You are an idiot.

I concur.

Anonymous wrote:"Is it common for people to take the sheets off the bed or make it before they leave? They are the first ones that have stayed with us that haven't done this. I can't remember what they did last time, but I think they took the sheets off. If I ask them more about it wouldn't I be calling them out on their lack of manners?"

Cray cray. Are you Asian?

+1 Holy Sh*t you are nuts lady. We have had many guest and a few have been unexpected. But family is always welcome. And no, none of my guests take the sheets off or take the air off a mattress, that is part of hosting guests. I feel bad for your in laws, yikes!

My in laws left this morning!! They are the ones that dropped by unexpectedly from out of state. http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/441589.page On their way out I ended up saying, "next time if you guys give me more notice I can let older DC stay home from school to visit with you guys." My mother in-law said, "oh we don't want him to miss school for us." My response was, "We need more notice next time." She said absolutely nothing after that. My DH says he thinks his mom got the message.

Now my house smells like Joann White Musk. It's so strong that it seems like my MIL dropped the bottle or something in our basement floor.

They didn't take the sheets off the bed (an inflatable ereo mattress) or put the mattress down. (Don't most people do this?)

While they were watching my 2.5 year old they let her play with Play-doh on the couch and now it's plastered into it!!

I am wondering if they were for some reason angry with me before they even got here. The last time they were here in December it was really nice or so I thought. Should I look more into this? Is it common for people to take the sheets off the bed or make it before they leave? They are the first ones that have stayed with us that haven't done this. I can't remember what they did last time, but I think they took the sheets off. If I ask them more about it wouldn't I be calling them out on their lack of manners?

Op you are a Bitch!

Why are you being passive aggressive, OP? The "offer" was basically rewarding them for their bad behavior. Simple say, "Next time, please ask us when it would be convenient to visit."

The sheets thing and air mattress thing are both ridic. Not a problem. Can't believe you'd be bothered by that but make a half-joke about the appalling lack of civility in them just showing up out of the blue.

I hate it when guests take the sheets off the bed. I don't want to do the sheets right away usually, and I hate seeing the naked bed. It's not a big deal to take sheets off of a bed. I would never expect anyone to deflate an air mattress!

My GMOM calked me out on the sheets thing after we left her house for Christmas. I told her I did not change the bed because DH was still in it when I got out.
We both cracked up laughing, she really could have cared less, she was just messing with me.
My DH and I were just laughing about his mom and how our guest room always smell like her makeup after she leaves and how she used to get it all over our DC's onesies.
Yes, we laughed.
We have a sense of humor.
OP, you need to get one of those.
TAKE IT LIGHT!!

Why didn't your dh ask them to give you guys more notice? That's his job, not yours.

I hate it when the sheets are stripped!!!! We have monthly visitors but I don't like to wash the sheets until right before a guest arrives. I prefer to just make up the bed after someone leaves.