Anonymous wrote:A more interesting question may be whether parents with kids at private school require their children to do the assigned homework. Our kids are at a private school, so I feel I have chosen their school environment and it's expectations. While I might not get the exact amount of homework given, I would never think to allow our kids to skip Hallmark unless they were sick or there was some other unusual reason. But then, I got to choose a school that I generally find reasonable, and that gives helpful homework and not generally too much.

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Anonymous wrote:Both parents have graduate degrees: DH has a PhD and I have a a MS.

We do not agree with assigning homework in early elementary years. Around third grade homework is more appropriate. Why should children whose parents are providing a highly enriched home environment not be able to take advantage of that? After school is time for practicing their instrument, taking swimming lessons, reading, cooking together, talking, being with friends, or playing sports. The school has my child for most of the day, when they come home they are mine. If we want to hit a museum or take a hike we will. We do our own math and language arts enrichment at home.

That said, I agree that it is important to teach children to respect their teacher. I am not promoting defiance or a poor work ethic. We have selected a school that shares our values. Our school does not assign homework in the early grades and the students come from educated families.

You're a freaking nightmare.

The kids need to do the homework because it refreshes and reinforces what they learned at school. It's targeted to the lessons that they are learning at school. Your enrichment is great, but it's not specific to the lesson plan at school.

DH has a PhD, MA, MS, MBA. I have a JD and MA. We're in the top 10% of earners for our area.

hmm, somehow I learned though my (excellent) elementary school in the 1970s assigned no homework.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both parents have graduate degrees: DH has a PhD and I have a a MS.

We do not agree with assigning homework in early elementary years. Around third grade homework is more appropriate. Why should children whose parents are providing a highly enriched home environment not be able to take advantage of that? After school is time for practicing their instrument, taking swimming lessons, reading, cooking together, talking, being with friends, or playing sports. The school has my child for most of the day, when they come home they are mine. If we want to hit a museum or take a hike we will. We do our own math and language arts enrichment at home.

That said, I agree that it is important to teach children to respect their teacher. I am not promoting defiance or a poor work ethic. We have selected a school that shares our values. Our school does not assign homework in the early grades and the students come from educated families.

You're a freaking nightmare.

The kids need to do the homework because it refreshes and reinforces what they learned at school. It's targeted to the lessons that they are learning at school. Your enrichment is great, but it's not specific to the lesson plan at school.

DH has a PhD, MA, MS, MBA. I have a JD and MA. We're in the top 10% of earners for our area.

Anonymous wrote:Curious as to whether those who are allowing kids to skip homework also were allowed to skip homework by their own parents.

If you're so smart, rich, and well-educated, then you should know that there is no evidence for homework being useful in early elementary.

Anonymous wrote:
OP,

I think this is more complex situation than your breakdown can reveal. Most importantly, I think homework compliance is a function of how rule-abiding the parents are. These types of parents exist at all socio-economic levels, even though low-income and very high-income parents may perhaps think less of rules because of their status.

We spend an inordinate time on homework because DS has low processing speed and also because we abide by the rules. We earn 120K annually.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both parents have graduate degrees: DH has a PhD and I have a a MS.

We do not agree with assigning homework in early elementary years. Around third grade homework is more appropriate. Why should children whose parents are providing a highly enriched home environment not be able to take advantage of that? After school is time for practicing their instrument, taking swimming lessons, reading, cooking together, talking, being with friends, or playing sports. The school has my child for most of the day, when they come home they are mine. If we want to hit a museum or take a hike we will. We do our own math and language arts enrichment at home.

That said, I agree that it is important to teach children to respect their teacher. I am not promoting defiance or a poor work ethic. We have selected a school that shares our values. Our school does not assign homework in the early grades and the students come from educated families.

You're a freaking nightmare.

The kids need to do the homework because it refreshes and reinforces what they learned at school. It's targeted to the lessons that they are learning at school. Your enrichment is great, but it's not specific to the lesson plan at school.

DH has a PhD, MA, MS, MBA. I have a JD and MA. We're in the top 10% of earners for our area. [/quote

If you're so smart, rich, and well-educated, then you should know that there is no evidence for homework being useful in early elementary.