just say no and plan something else with your dad for another time.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if somebody already suggested this, but why not leave the 11 and 1 year old at home w/ DH and you go with the 7 and 3 year old. Problem solved...

P.S. nanny can stay at home helping DH w/ 1 year old, so you're getting your money's worth.

I don't know if somebody already suggested this, but why not leave the 11 and 1 year old at home w/ DH and you go with the 7 and 3 year old. Problem solved...

Op,
Stop feeling guilty and skip it one year and reevaluate. I can't get over the posters who are making it sound like you are abusing your children by not taking them. Just because your kids enjoy it doesn't mean you have to make it work every year.

I'm a bit put off that it seems you have the largest brood thus more complications and your family seems to ignore your needs.

I couldn't stand being trapped in one house with the different personalities. The family member who gets upset about your older dc playing on the ipad needs to be told to mind her own business. She is trying to control your child and those decisions are entirely your own.

OP, your post made me so sad.

Staying at "The Beach House with Extended Family" is only 1 way of making this happen.

I'd suggest to DH that he and your oldest stay home together. Problem solved for the two who don't want to go. Nanny can watch the 11 yr old at home, or if there is now room in the house since DH and oldest DC are not going, maybe nanny can accompany you. Re your limited leave time, that is hard but I'd suck it up and go - great times and memories for the younger kids, and I think since it is important to your father it should be important to you (if you can make it work, of course - if you have to take unpaid leave then I'd pass on the trip entirely).

Anonymous wrote:OP is not a brat. Wish I would have objected to these nightmare trips years ago.

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No kidding.

Anonymous wrote:Leave the older kids home with your DH and the nanny so they don't have to miss camp. Go on your own with the younger two for just a long weekend, so you do make an appearance but limit the amount of leave used and aren't there long enough to get really aggravated with the situation.

PP here. I like this idea. Whomever thought of these "extended family 'vacations' ", in one house, when and where at least a big part of the family is not interested, should be shot.

Leave the older kids home with your DH and the nanny so they don't have to miss camp. Go on your own with the younger two for just a long weekend, so you do make an appearance but limit the amount of leave used and aren't there long enough to get really aggravated with the situation.

There are lots of reasons to object to a trip with an extended family, but not being able to bring the nanny is not one of them.

OP is not a brat. Wish I would have objected to these nightmare trips years ago.

Anonymous wrote:OMG OP you are a brat. Do you hear yourself..this is for your kids..not for you. Grow up! God I wish my kids had more cousins their age, this is priceless. Your dad is not well and you are being this much a princess. For the love of god, pull it together. If you can't be in the house at least get a hotel.

PP here. We have tons of cousins our ages and enjoy those cousins at other times.

OP, do your kids want to go? Do they enjoy their cousins? Or their grandfather? Or anything about the week? I am asking because I empathize with you.

DH and nanny stay home with the baby. 11yo gets to bring a friend.

PP

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