Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 17:12     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:YES. You are 15 years older and should be able to afford what you need for another kid. You are no longer young and clueless.


Jerk. That is no the point of a shower.


Uh, yeah it is. It's like, "oh no! We can't possibly be expected to provide our baby what it needs BY OURSELVES!!! That would be...expensive! Let's get everyone else to pay!!!"
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 16:54     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations!


It's not for me. I was invited to a friend's shower and I was kind of surprised she was having one.


Really? You are sounding sort of judgemental. Baby showers need not be about getting baby stuff, they are there to celebrate the coming of a new baby. I threw one for my SIL (who had 18 month old DC) and we gave her a great party surrounded with her friends and family. MIL and I gave her spa day cert and house cleaning service. We specified no gifts or money, but one of her friends took great pictures of the occasion and send her a CD of it.

Besides - 15 years is a great difference and there is nothing that she could reuse from her first baby. Safety standards and products change so much that even 6-7 years make a lot of difference.




I love how the people who throw/had showers for second babies (18 months apart) always chime in and say they aren't tacky.


Actually, it totally depends on what culture you are from. In my culture you celebrate the arrival of children. You also do not buy things for the baby before they are born (as to not jinx it). And there are never any baby registries. That is considered very tacky.

However, I am not sure in my extremely conservative culture if any one would acknowledge an out-of-wedlock child. I have never heard of one.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 16:41     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
When I think something is tacky/distasteful I just don't participate. I don't need a quorum to decide how I feel about something.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 16:37     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:My response to the frequent shower-related "is this tacky?" threads would often be yes, but not in this case. This woman is essentially having two only children, 15 years apart.


Me, too. I almost always find second showers tacky, and was asked by my best friend if I wanted one (opposite sex, five years later) and said no. But I think this is fine.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 16:31     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
My response to the frequent shower-related "is this tacky?" threads would often be yes, but not in this case. This woman is essentially having two only children, 15 years apart.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 16:04     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Come on people, 15 years apart?? Isn't there some kind of statute of limitations that runs on second baby showers being tacky? I don't find second showers all that tacky (OK, 18 months later, maybe) but 15 years? No way, that sounds like a reason to celebrate and they will in fact need new stuff.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:58     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations!


It's not for me. I was invited to a friend's shower and I was kind of surprised she was having one.


Really? You are sounding sort of judgemental. Baby showers need not be about getting baby stuff, they are there to celebrate the coming of a new baby. I threw one for my SIL (who had 18 month old DC) and we gave her a great party surrounded with her friends and family. MIL and I gave her spa day cert and house cleaning service. We specified no gifts or money, but one of her friends took great pictures of the occasion and send her a CD of it.

Besides - 15 years is a great difference and there is nothing that she could reuse from her first baby. Safety standards and products change so much that even 6-7 years make a lot of difference.




I love how the people who throw/had showers for second babies (18 months apart) always chime in and say they aren't tacky.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:50     Subject: Re:Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:OP,

How old are you? Are you married? Do you have kids?


37, married with two kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:31     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Of course it's tacky but good manners are not important to you and your friends, so it makes no difference.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:29     Subject: Re:Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
OP,

How old are you? Are you married? Do you have kids?
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:23     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations!


It's not for me. I was invited to a friend's shower and I was kind of surprised she was having one.


Really? You are sounding sort of judgemental. Baby showers need not be about getting baby stuff, they are there to celebrate the coming of a new baby. I threw one for my SIL (who had 18 month old DC) and we gave her a great party surrounded with her friends and family. MIL and I gave her spa day cert and house cleaning service. We specified no gifts or money, but one of her friends took great pictures of the occasion and send her a CD of it.

Besides - 15 years is a great difference and there is nothing that she could reuse from her first baby. Safety standards and products change so much that even 6-7 years make a lot of difference.


Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:18     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations!


It's not for me. I was invited to a friend's shower and I was kind of surprised she was having one.


You're surprised she doesn't have all her baby gear and clothing from 15 years ago?


No, I'm just surprised she's having a huge shower. I figured she would have a sprinkle or a sip and see and no registry info!
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:18     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Anonymous wrote:Not tacky at all.
If the shower is for you, congrats!
If the shower is for someone you are trying to judge, just stay home.


There's your answer OP! Decline and keep your judgments to yourself.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:14     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
It's especially tacky if the 15 year old hosts it!
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2015 15:14     Subject: Baby shower for second child (kids 15 years apart)
Yes, of course it's tacky.