I did -- my husband doesn't like cocktail parties and there was one I was excited to go to. He stayed home and put the kids to bed and told me to have a great time and stay out as late as I wanted. He let me sleep in on NY's Day and then we did a fun outing as a family since we were all off school and work. It was great.

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Anonymous wrote:I am home sick with kids. Husband went out to friends house. I was fine with it as he rarely goes out.

I wouldn't mind either if my DH didn't go out all time as it is.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Sit down with DH and talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.

He knows how I feel.

If he's not respecting your wishes and you're not happy, talk to him about going to counseling. Life is too short and it's a new year. Hugs, OP

It sounds like this is the actual issue. I imagine if it weren't the bil, it would be something or someone else.

The last three years, my DH has been away on a business trip for New Year's. Its always the same commitment and it will probably be like this for a while, so I put our kids to bed and watch the ball drop by myself. I don't really get the hype of NYE anyway, so it doesn't feel like a real loss.

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Anonymous wrote:How inconsiderate of your DH to try to help his depressed brother who is going through a divorce instead of paying attention to you OP.

It's not the first time, this has been going on for months.

NYE is a very couple oriented holiday. I understand why you are annoyed OP. If it were a one time thing I'd say maybe he was just trying to make sure your BIL wouldn't be alone last night. Since it's been going on for months there may be a bigger issue here- he can help him without ignoring you.

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Anonymous wrote:I am home sick with kids. Husband went out to friends house. I was fine with it as he rarely goes out.

I wouldn't mind either if my DH didn't go out all time as it is.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Sit down with DH and talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.

He knows how I feel.

Did you talk to him directly about it or do you assume he knows how you feel due to some kind of passive aggressive pissiness you sent his way?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am home sick with kids. Husband went out to friends house. I was fine with it as he rarely goes out.

I wouldn't mind either if my DH didn't go out all time as it is.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Sit down with DH and talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.

He knows how I feel.

If he's not respecting your wishes and you're not happy, talk to him about going to counseling. Life is too short and it's a new year. Hugs, OP

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am home sick with kids. Husband went out to friends house. I was fine with it as he rarely goes out.

I wouldn't mind either if my DH didn't go out all time as it is.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Sit down with DH and talk to him. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.

He knows how I feel.