I'm with you, OP. The email is way over the top.

Must be related to Marnie---the freak who sent out that letter about Thanksgiving, LOL

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it is real. I got a request to join meal train for someone with twins and both sets of parents who rented apartments close by to help for the first 6 months.
Meal train had laundry list of do s and don'ts plus suggestions of errands we could run including picking up/dropping off hisbands dry cleaning.

Holy shit. What the hell were both sets of parents there for?

That is just hilarious. I would not go. And because I already strongly dislike my sil, I would also totally call her out on how stupid I thought it was. Not letting people hold the baby...running the vacuum. It's totally ridiculous. I would always bring a dish to my friends and family when they just had a baby but to have someone request it is ridiculous and I wouldn't bring one. What an entitled person. People have babies every day, she is acting like she's some kind of celebrity.

Sounds like the mom is a high strung person who had a difficult delivery. The best thing would be for her to chill out, formula feed, nd get some sleep. But in place of that she is trying to exert control by obsessing over visitor rules. Not that anything she put in there is by itself unreasonable, but put together it just radiates anxiety. Op just play along for now and do what you can to support the family. Sounds like she is having a tough time.

Anonymous wrote:Oh I would love to read this and I am one who followed ped's instructons not to take baby in public for 2 months.

Are you effing kidding me? My kids had probably 4 Dr appointments in the first two months! Your ped is a moron

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say mass email -- it went out to who - family or friends and coworkers as well? I'd love to go to the home of a neighbor under the instruction that I must scrub the sink while I'm there. If they pulled this with just family -- people will still show out of obligation. But for friends/neighbors etc. -- they're about to figure out that people don't really care about them as much as they thought they did.

I think friends and families.

If we were honored to be receiving the e-mail it meant recuperating SIL wanted to see us.

Pls post the email!!

+1 post the email or it never happened!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say mass email -- it went out to who - family or friends and coworkers as well? I'd love to go to the home of a neighbor under the instruction that I must scrub the sink while I'm there. If they pulled this with just family -- people will still show out of obligation. But for friends/neighbors etc. -- they're about to figure out that people don't really care about them as much as they thought they did.

I think friends and families.

If we were honored to be receiving the e-mail it meant recuperating SIL wanted to see us.

Pls post the email!!

Hi friends and family,

We would like to visit those closest to us to come visit our new family. It's been a very long and stressful past few days and to keep everyone happy and healthy we do have a few requests.

We request all our guests are;
-healthy (no fevers within the last 48 hours, and no worrisome symptoms within the last couple of days this includes vomiting, diarrhea, and/or severe coughing)
-updated on ALL vaccines
-willing to help out (we are very behind in housework and rather spend time bonding with [baby] than cleaning and cooking)
-over the age of 18 (we request no children come at this time)
-not stay over allotted time. (30 minutes to an hour based on our needs)
-not wearing an perfumes or scented body lotions

Our main concern right now is the health of mom and [baby]. Please do not be offended if we do not allow you to hold [baby] during our visitation. There are many reasons for this and none of it is personal. We want to foster the bond between mother, father and baby and also make sure he stays healthy.

We have gotten a lot of requests to bring meals. We greatly appreciate that but do to limited space we ask that you contact us before bringing over a meal. I will include a least of things we need and enjoy below. Right now my diet is very strict because of some feeding issues we had with [baby]. Please do not bring any dish containing sugar and please do not bring any alcohol.

We are taking visitors from 10am to 4pm for the next few days, but don't want more than a couple of visitors a day so please respond ASAP to let us know a time that works for you. We may postpone or delay visitation based on the needs of myself and [baby]. At this time I prefer feeding time to be done without any extra guests. We have had some unexpected difficulties, and so please bear with us.

While not necessary, we would GREATLY appreciate if any guests are willing help us with basic chores. My recovery from the birth has not been going well so I find it very difficult to keep up with daily tasks. If you could volunteer to do dishes or laundry or run the vacuum we would be so grateful.

Thank you so much for being with us during my difficult pregnancy. You have all been so helpful and we greatly appreciate everything you've done. We are really limiting who gets to visit these first few weeks, but we can't wait to see those of you who we truly cherish.

Love, [SIL]

*invite

Ignore the typos, I had to take out some details

You don't have to go and see the mom and baby you know? I would just use the excuse that I have a cold and avoid for ever more.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you say mass email -- it went out to who - family or friends and coworkers as well? I'd love to go to the home of a neighbor under the instruction that I must scrub the sink while I'm there. If they pulled this with just family -- people will still show out of obligation. But for friends/neighbors etc. -- they're about to figure out that people don't really care about them as much as they thought they did.

I think friends and families.

If we were honored to be receiving the e-mail it meant recuperating SIL wanted to see us.

Pls post the email!!

Hi friends and family,

We would like to visit those closest to us to come visit our new family. It's been a very long and stressful past few days and to keep everyone happy and healthy we do have a few requests.

We request all our guests are;
-healthy (no fevers within the last 48 hours, and no worrisome symptoms within the last couple of days this includes vomiting, diarrhea, and/or severe coughing)
-updated on ALL vaccines
-willing to help out (we are very behind in housework and rather spend time bonding with [baby] than cleaning and cooking)
-over the age of 18 (we request no children come at this time)
-not stay over allotted time. (30 minutes to an hour based on our needs)
-not wearing an perfumes or scented body lotions

Our main concern right now is the health of mom and [baby]. Please do not be offended if we do not allow you to hold [baby] during our visitation. There are many reasons for this and none of it is personal. We want to foster the bond between mother, father and baby and also make sure he stays healthy.

We have gotten a lot of requests to bring meals. We greatly appreciate that but do to limited space we ask that you contact us before bringing over a meal. I will include a least of things we need and enjoy below. Right now my diet is very strict because of some feeding issues we had with [baby]. Please do not bring any dish containing sugar and please do not bring any alcohol.

We are taking visitors from 10am to 4pm for the next few days, but don't want more than a couple of visitors a day so please respond ASAP to let us know a time that works for you. We may postpone or delay visitation based on the needs of myself and [baby]. At this time I prefer feeding time to be done without any extra guests. We have had some unexpected difficulties, and so please bear with us.

While not necessary, we would GREATLY appreciate if any guests are willing help us with basic chores. My recovery from the birth has not been going well so I find it very difficult to keep up with daily tasks. If you could volunteer to do dishes or laundry or run the vacuum we would be so grateful.

Thank you so much for being with us during my difficult pregnancy. You have all been so helpful and we greatly appreciate everything you've done. We are really limiting who gets to visit these first few weeks, but we can't wait to see those of you who we truly cherish.

Love, [SIL]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it is real. I got a request to join meal train for someone with twins and both sets of parents who rented apartments close by to help for the first 6 months.
Meal train had laundry list of do s and don'ts plus suggestions of errands we could run including picking up/dropping off hisbands dry cleaning.

Completely different. A third party is asking if you would like to participate in a group effort to help a family with multiples. This is just like arranging a group effort to assist someone who has a serious illness, recent bereavement or other crisis. OP's "SIL" is sending out her own "mass email".

Actually, it is similar in that the requests included personal needs that go beyond a meal.

Hey, it's OK! They're first time parents and probably think themselves very organized and thorough!

I would wait a bit before seeing them, to let the ardor cool.
But I would probably abide by their stipulations once there. It's a not a big deal for me, and apparently means a lot to them.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it is real. I got a request to join meal train for someone with twins and both sets of parents who rented apartments close by to help for the first 6 months.
Meal train had laundry list of do s and don'ts plus suggestions of errands we could run including picking up/dropping off hisbands dry cleaning.

Completely different. A third party is asking if you would like to participate in a group effort to help a family with multiples. This is just like arranging a group effort to assist someone who has a serious illness, recent bereavement or other crisis. OP's "SIL" is sending out her own "mass email".

Anonymous wrote:I really do not doubt that this is a real post bc OP's SIL might as well be my sister. These women exist and they're scary.

They are not scary to me because I don't indulge that diva sh$t.

First time mom/dad (I'm guessing -- second timers don't care as much about germs as toddler bro/sis is exposing the infant to everything anyway) so I can give them a pass on the holding the baby stuff. But as for requesting that people bring a dish -- WTF!? They had a baby and are not incapacitated -- at least the brother shouldn't be. They can still find ways to feed themselves, whether that means frozen pizzas in the microwave or takeout. If people want to bring a dish, that's nice of them -- but who requests it!? And as for needing time to bond with the baby -- I'd make it easy on them and reply "since you guys need to bond right now and are concerned about people holding the baby, I look forward to meeting my niece/nephew in a few months."

Would that start WW 3?

In any event I would NOT go over there with a dish, simply because they demanded it, and I'd make my visit short enough that I look at mom and baby but take off before chore time hits. And I say this as someone who has helped out people with food and chores before after they brought home a baby, but difference is those people never demanded it and were very gracious about whatever I did -- even if it wasn't perfect.