OP here- DH and I talked. We are on the exact same page and he is super pissed, too. MIL went right to bed after dinner (what she always does), so he is going to talk to her this morning.

I had totally forgotten about this until this morning, but a couple of years ago she was calling our then 6 year-old son "fat boy" while playing board games with him. She would say, "I've got you beat, fat boy!" and stuff like that. DH lit into her then, but she must have forgotten how we feel about these kinds of comments.

And, no, our son is not fat. He's super lean and athletic.

They leave tomorrow, thank goodness.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the crazy people on this thread who are suggesting that 9 year olds should start watching their weight? You people have some issues...

OP - if I were you, the next time she says something similar, either about you or your daughter, I will let her have it so she doesn't do it again.

Look around you at all the obese children and their parents and then think about the crap you are spewing.

I don't agree with the MIL's approach but you are out of your effing mind if you don't see the need to moderate the diet of children so that they don't eat junk and become another statistic in the battle against obesity.

How does MIL's comment work as a moderation of diet? Even Weight Watchers allows whipped cream.

This thread is so off track. The point is that your MIL made a shocking comment that could affect your child's self esteem and that used a rude term to refer to an overweight person to boot. You have every reason to feel angry. My MIL is similar in that she will say the WORST things, and you are so blind-sided and shocked that she would say it that the moment passes and you miss the opportunity to speak to her about it without turning it into "a thing" (which we'd never then hear the end of).

Your instinct to talk honestly to DH is spot on. Form a strategy to speak up next time. Ask him what he thinks about addressing this particular comment (even though it's after the fact, it's bad enough that I'd consider bringing it up). Most importantly, talk to DD about it, both about how it's important to enjoy food and to stay active, and about how we don't use mean words like that. If you elect not to talk to MIL (understandable) then just Let It Go....but be ready with your partner to deal with this differently next time.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she would not be allowed in your house if she makes such comments like that.

It is never too early for a girl to start watching her weight.

Really? Should my eight month old be on a diet?

Anonymous wrote: But is she right?

That eating whipped cream will turn you into a fatty?

Have you ever been to Europe? Homemade high fat whipped cream on every desert, every serving of ice cream, even on coffee. And when you ask for more, they beam and practically back a truck up to your table to serve you a double-helping. And it's strange, but people are athletic, slim, and not at all "fatties."

Haha Madge- that's silly! We all know it's about balance. Can't eat too much or too little. There's no reason Janie can't have whipped cream tonight.

What MIL said is not false or right. It's just not a big deal. Why are you still holding thinking about it?
You didn't say anything about your DD being upset.
I wouldn't want my mom to bring it up with dad or tell anything to visiting grandma.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the crazy people on this thread who are suggesting that 9 year olds should start watching their weight? You people have some issues...

OP - if I were you, the next time she says something similar, either about you or your daughter, I will let her have it so she doesn't do it again.

Look around you at all the obese children and their parents and then think about the crap you are spewing.

I don't agree with the MIL's approach but you are out of your effing mind if you don't see the need to moderate the diet of children so that they don't eat junk and become another statistic in the battle against obesity.

I am the quoted PP. Of course 9 year olds shouldn't be eating junk all the time and they should have healthy food available to them. But they shouldn't be 'watching their weight' because they want to be thin. Being thin/healthy weight should be the by product of their healthy lifestyle, not the goal. Having your grandma telling you you will be fat if you eat dessert when you are 9 is not good for the kid.

Anonymous wrote:Who are the crazy people on this thread who are suggesting that 9 year olds should start watching their weight? You people have some issues...

OP - if I were you, the next time she says something similar, either about you or your daughter, I will let her have it so she doesn't do it again.

Look around you at all the obese children and their parents and then think about the crap you are spewing.

I don't agree with the MIL's approach but you are out of your effing mind if you don't see the need to moderate the diet of children so that they don't eat junk and become another statistic in the battle against obesity.

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Anonymous wrote:"Madge/Mom:
I/We heard you tell Larla that she "would become a fatty" if she ate whipped cream. We are not raising our child to have an eating disorder, body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food. If you choose to make any comment related to any of us or our children about our bodies and/or what we eat, you will no longer be invited to be part of our lived. We're that serious."

My response to someone who said that to me " just try and stop me "

Ehh. Parents would win. The law is settled in this area. Nice try though!

Anonymous wrote:"Madge/Mom:
I/We heard you tell Larla that she "would become a fatty" if she ate whipped cream. We are not raising our child to have an eating disorder, body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food. If you choose to make any comment related to any of us or our children about our bodies and/or what we eat, you will no longer be invited to be part of our lived. We're that serious."

I am pretty sure MIL thinks she is preventing future "eating disorder, body image issues or unhealthy relationships with food" by making her GD stay thin.

Who are the crazy people on this thread who are suggesting that 9 year olds should start watching their weight? You people have some issues...

OP - if I were you, the next time she says something similar, either about you or your daughter, I will let her have it so she doesn't do it again.

I just checked and one serving of whipped cream has 15 calories and 1 gram of fat. All of you bitches criticizing the OP and her daughter can go stick your face in it. What OP's MIL said is false. There is no reason why a NINE-year-old can't have whipped cream on her dessert without turning into a "fatty." But I'm sure the MIL, along with many of you, would rather she develop a lifelong eating disorder than admit that is something that's okay.

Anonymous wrote:I would tell her in no uncertain terms that she would not be allowed in your house if she makes such comments like that.

It is never too early for a girl to start watching her weight.

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Anonymous wrote:I would have filled up large bowls with whipped cream for myself and the kid and gone to town.

You are an idiot. It is your kind of attitude that causes people - including children - to be obese.

What an utterly asinine response!

I like that response and I think the original comment is actually the issue.