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Anonymous wrote:Not at ALL. I texted him telling him the reasons I left and then I called him. He was asleep. I asked if he had anything to say to me and he said "I'm sorry I blew up at you." I said I cannot stand being treated this way and that I was going to go to the marriott and fly out tomorrow. In retrospect I should not have mentioned flying out bc if I don't go it shows I just have empty responses to his bad actions. If for nothing else, for this reason staying at marriott tonight seems like a must-do.

Could you stay with a friend for a couple days? or just even another night at the Marriot?

Yes I definitely could do that.

Plus I desperately have to pee. Main issue now is do I really have the guts to walk into a full service mariott in my flip flops, pjs, and bath robe. At least I'm a gold member.

Anonymous wrote:Not at ALL. I texted him telling him the reasons I left and then I called him. He was asleep. I asked if he had anything to say to me and he said "I'm sorry I blew up at you." I said I cannot stand being treated this way and that I was going to go to the marriott and fly out tomorrow. In retrospect I should not have mentioned flying out bc if I don't go it shows I just have empty responses to his bad actions. If for nothing else, for this reason staying at marriott tonight seems like a must-do.

Could you stay with a friend for a couple days? or just even another night at the Marriot?

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Anonymous wrote:Op, where are you now? Hotel or home?

Still in car in front of Marriott.

Ok, thanks for answering. I'm worried about you. I suggest getting the room and some rest. It's not good for you or baby to be stressed right now. Get some sleep and address the situation with dh in the am. Let him know that his aggressive behavior and words are not acceptable.

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Not at ALL. I texted him telling him the reasons I left and then I called him. He was asleep. I asked if he had anything to say to me and he said "I'm sorry I blew up at you." I said I cannot stand being treated this way and that I was going to go to the marriott and fly out tomorrow. In retrospect I should not have mentioned flying out bc if I don't go it shows I just have empty responses to his bad actions. If for nothing else, for this reason staying at marriott tonight seems like a must-do.

Has he tried to contact you since you left the house? Does he seem concerned about where you are or if you're safe?

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Anonymous wrote:Op, where are you now? Hotel or home?

Still in car in front of Marriott.

Ok, thanks for answering. I'm worried about you. I suggest getting the room and some rest. It's not good for you or baby to be stressed right now. Get some sleep and address the situation with dh in the am. Let him know that his aggressive behavior and words are not acceptable.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm so sorry. He sounds like a total jerk.

How old are you and what is the story of you two getting together? Was he always this aggressive or just since pregnancy?

He's always been kind of a jerk. I had poor self esteem when I married him about five years ago and didn't understand this. His dad especially is an a-hole to his mom and he mimics that behavior. I went through individual therapy and learned to stick up for myself and we did couples counseling as well and it helped immensely. We were in a pretty good place before the pregnancy. The majority of the last few years and the start of the pregnancy were fine, really good in fact. Now this ugly behavior is back and I'm crushed. In our late 30s.

OP, I'm so sorry. But I really dont think you should stay with someone who makes you feel this way. If you are worried about not having more children, you still have lots of time, and you can also freeze your eggs. You should not stay in a relationship with someone who is cold and abusive. And I promise you, it will get worse. Young children add so much stress to a relationship, and it sounds like your DH is unable to even handle the slightest inconvenience. I'm also concerned for your children, who will no doubt have to grow up walking on eggshells as you have learned to do.

Anonymous wrote:Op, where are you now? Hotel or home?

Still in car in front of Marriott.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm so sorry. He sounds like a total jerk.

How old are you and what is the story of you two getting together? Was he always this aggressive or just since pregnancy?

He's always been kind of a jerk. I had poor self esteem when I married him about five years ago and didn't understand this. His dad especially is an a-hole to his mom and he mimics that behavior. I went through individual therapy and learned to stick up for myself and we did couples counseling as well and it helped immensely. We were in a pretty good place before the pregnancy. The majority of the last few years and the start of the pregnancy were fine, really good in fact. Now this ugly behavior is back and I'm crushed. In our late 30s.

Op, where are you now? Hotel or home?

I would stay the night at Marriott and make it clear that his behavior is unacceptable.

It's not safe or practical to fly at this stage in your pregnancy as it may induce labor.

^he seems very unhinged and unfit to be a father if this "set him off"

Anonymous wrote:What about using piddle pads so the dog doesn't destroy the balcony and you don't have to do the stairs?

I tried...she walks around the puddle pad and finds any area that is NOT the piddle pad to pee on. Honestly now that I have discovered nature's miracle and a long handled brush I don't mind the clean up. I just flush the solids in the toilet. I figure I may as well get used to cleaning up poop and pee anyway. He just got a visual on a poop and pee mess before I cleaned it up and it set him off.

Put the dog down for goodness sake!!