Anonymous
Post 01/15/2015 12:28     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. I don't know WHY MIL insists on cooking a dish that's ethnic for my family when we can do it so much better. Don't try to impress us. Because they want your approval. I know this from experience. I usually have a couple of responses: There are alot of Chinese/Indian restaurants around, we don't need to cook these food at home. Or my parents don't really like this/that food (which is whatever she's cooking).

I complain to my mom about MIL and of course from my mom's point of view is, be nice and respectful. Let MIL do what she wants. So, I will listen to my mom's advice.


Can you flip it into a compliment: "Oh MIL we eat aloo matar and saag ALL THE TIME. What my parents would REALLY love is some of your ___ since they don't normally get to eat that!"
Anonymous
Post 01/14/2015 14:06     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
I hear you, OP. I don't know WHY MIL insists on cooking a dish that's ethnic for my family when we can do it so much better. Don't try to impress us. Because they want your approval. I know this from experience. I usually have a couple of responses: There are alot of Chinese/Indian restaurants around, we don't need to cook these food at home. Or my parents don't really like this/that food (which is whatever she's cooking).

I complain to my mom about MIL and of course from my mom's point of view is, be nice and respectful. Let MIL do what she wants. So, I will listen to my mom's advice.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2014 08:47     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op hasn't said anything offensive abt mil. If you are cooking into a specific culture, you should have some knowledge of the food. Op if you give her gentle hints it should be fine


What is "cooking into a specific culture?"


I think it's kind of like getting jumped into a gang.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2014 06:21     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:Op hasn't said anything offensive abt mil. If you are cooking into a specific culture, you should have some knowledge of the food. Op if you give her gentle hints it should be fine


What is "cooking into a specific culture?"
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2014 06:21     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:My mil loves cooking "ethnic" food except she always adds in 2-3 times as much of one or two spices that she likes and the result is BAD. It's especially noticable to me when she cooks Indian food because I am Indian and the food tastes all wrong. Do I just let it be? I'm embarrassed for when she is going to invite my parents over and she serves them what is supposed to be my moms recipes but she messed with the spices. What do I do?


Why would she cook your mom's recipes for her? That seems crazy to me. Also, if she likes her cooking, who cares if it isn't how your mom cooked it. The world does not revolve around your preferences.
Anonymous
Post 12/27/2014 01:54     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Op hasn't said anything offensive abt mil. If you are cooking into a specific culture, you should have some knowledge of the food. Op if you give her gentle hints it should be fine
Anonymous
Post 12/26/2014 09:01     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Admit it, OP, you really don't like your MIL, do you?
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 20:16     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Stop being a snotty brat. So her Indian food isn't perfect, oh well. I bet your American cooking sucks.


It's not that hard to make hamburgers bitch.

With DIL like this, ethnic food is the least of MIL's problems.


That was not the OP!!!!
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 20:15     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:OP,

Indian food is tricky to cook. It is also laborious. So, get the food yourself or get it catered and ask her to make American desserts.

I think that she is very sweet for wanting to tackle Indian food.


It's really not.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 16:33     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Stop being a snotty brat. So her Indian food isn't perfect, oh well. I bet your American cooking sucks.


It's not that hard to make hamburgers bitch.

With DIL like this, ethnic food is the least of MIL's problems.


What is wrong with you guys? Coal in your stockings this morning?

OP, if MIL likes food the way she makes it, then that's really all that matters. Try to not think of it as "Indian" food, but just as food.

You can say something like, "I know a lot of people find coriander overwhelming, I love it, but I keep it to a minimum..."

Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 15:36     Subject: Re:Mil and "ethnic" food
Teach your MIL how to make Tamarind Margaritas. Copious amounts of booze makes everything taste good!
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 15:33     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Stop being a snotty brat. So her Indian food isn't perfect, oh well. I bet your American cooking sucks.


It's not that hard to make hamburgers bitch.

With DIL like this, ethnic food is the least of MIL's problems.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 15:04     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
OP,

Indian food is tricky to cook. It is also laborious. So, get the food yourself or get it catered and ask her to make American desserts.

I think that she is very sweet for wanting to tackle Indian food.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 14:46     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Anonymous wrote:Stop being a snotty brat. So her Indian food isn't perfect, oh well. I bet your American cooking sucks.


It's not that hard to make hamburgers bitch.
Anonymous
Post 12/25/2014 13:40     Subject: Mil and "ethnic" food
Stop being a snotty brat. So her Indian food isn't perfect, oh well. I bet your American cooking sucks.