Anonymous
Post 12/24/2014 09:23     Subject: christmas party
Anonymous wrote:What is your daughter's relationship with these kids? Does she consider them all her friends? For a person to invite such a small group I would think the invitations were going to a group that tends to hang out together, eat together, or something. Ask your child if this seems like a natural grouping of kids. She would know best if she is a part of that group or not.

This would be my first consideration. Since you don't seem to know the kids or parents, that would give me pause.

And for the unrealistic PP, yes, middle school kids hanging out downstairs why the parents busy themselves upstairs and the only time the parents see the kids is when they walk in the door and then walk back out - yes, assume that all kinds of things are going on. Duh. Were you all never kids?
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2014 09:14     Subject: Re:christmas party
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:seems like a small party - 2 boys and 2 girls?


I read the OP as 2 boys and 3 girls + hostess, so 2 boys and 4 girls for a total of 6 people. One girl has already declined to attend, meaning 2 boys and 2 girls may or may not be attending, plus obviously the hostess. Small, but reasonable for the size of a core group of friends if they're not particularly outgoing and prefer small groups. That was around the size of my oldest DD's group of closest friends at that age.


It just seems like a pretty small group for "dancing" as specified on the invitation. The invitation seems weird to me : "hangout, dance, games". I would expect a larger group if invitees is all.
Anonymous
Post 12/24/2014 01:22     Subject: christmas party
What is your daughter's relationship with these kids? Does she consider them all her friends? For a person to invite such a small group I would think the invitations were going to a group that tends to hang out together, eat together, or something. Ask your child if this seems like a natural grouping of kids. She would know best if she is a part of that group or not.
Anonymous
Post 12/23/2014 22:56     Subject: christmas party
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she has found her clique. Dot blame the boy for having a gossipy mom.


I will not blame the kid for mom's behavior.

Anonymous
Post 12/23/2014 22:52     Subject: Re:christmas party
Anonymous wrote:
MS/HS mom PP here. OK, this concerns me and I would have to feel comfortable that my child is not being invited to be a target/victim. When you first posted, I was kinda with the helicopter poster, but this information gives me pause. My HS son was bullied and has a high tolerance for being picked at. I work a lot with him about making good choices when it comes to accepting invitations.


Thank you for reading my post and trying to understand where I am coming from.