Start keeping a shared wish list document. during the year. With links. It's a surprise bc you don't know what he picks. But you know it's something you want.

We have done this for years.

Try our approach: we don't buy each other anything for Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries, etc but what we do is to give each other gifts during the year when we see something the person would like . There are times we hear the other say something about loving to have X and down the line we get the other person X but there is never a special event associated with the gift giving.

It really takes away all the pressure of having to find the right gift for a special occasion.

We do get the kids something but we generally have a good idea what it is they want.

Then tell him don't even bother buying anything for you.

After hearing him rant and rave, anything he buys you now would mean nothing to you anyway after hearing him vent like a little child.

Geez.

Talk about a Grinch.

OP here. It was a vent, nothing more. Better to unload here than to snap at DH when he is clearly stressed over his procrastination, no? Sorry I'm not Mother Theresa.

OP Why did you ever marry him? Start saving money and get away from him as soon as you can. Divorce is the only answer

Or you could grow up. Your choice.