Anonymous wrote:Zero time. Get over it and get back to work!

Something is very wrong with you.

I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

I am very sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry OP- I had 4 miscarriages which devastated me.. a stillborn is so much higher in the scale of pain. I wish you the best and am sooo sorry,, really

OP, I went through this last year. I took 6 weeks. I am so sorry for your loss.

NP, my first child was stillborn, 18 years ago. I honestly don't remember how much time I took off. I think it was just a couple of weeks, but that time is mostly just a blur, with some particularly painful moments that stand out in sharp relief in my mind. I had an easy delivery and physically felt able to go back to work, and while I didn't want to be there, I didn't want to be at home, either. Honestly, I didn't know wtf to do with myself, so I went back to work.

It was a terrible, lonely time.

OP, you had a baby. Of course you should take whatever leave that entitles you to. Please be gentle with yourself and give yourself a lot of time and space for grieving.

I am so, so sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been through this unfortunately. You are entitled to the 6-8 weeks (depending on type of delivery) as that time is intended for you to recover physically from the process. My physical recovery was very easy but mental one nor so much. DH and I spent a good chunk of our time off (he had. 4 weeks off for paternity leave which his boss let him use) away from home.

I'm sorry for your loss

This.

I recommend having your boss or colleague let everyone in the office know (even clients if they knew you were pregnant). That way you don't have to field congratulations and newborn questions when you get back. I went back to work slowly, first day back went in for a meeting. Next couple of days, stayed for only a half day. I also was completely off email for 3 weeks (with my first I answered email throughout maternity leave), but my boss wanted me to be able to have as much of a break as needed.

Agree wholeheartedly with this.

Also agree.

I am so so sorry for your loss, OP

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Anonymous wrote:Very sorry OP. So so sorry. I had a stillborn delivered at 30 weeks. I felt fine physically and decided to go back to work after 3.5 weeks. Worst decision ever because I still looked pregnant and I just got constant questions about when baby was due etc etc. If you work in an office with the same people everyday whom know your situation you wouldn't have this issue though. I am a care provider and deal with patients so I see people who know nothing about me constantly. So if I had to re do it all over again I would take 6 weeks off at least.

I find this hard to believe. A month later you looked pregnant enough that ppl thought you were expecting??? Even if you had weight to lose its not in a pregnant belly shape.

You are an idiot. Women look pregnant for a good long while after giving birth. Try being recently postpartum and going anywhere without the actual baby. People ask when you're due.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been through this unfortunately. You are entitled to the 6-8 weeks (depending on type of delivery) as that time is intended for you to recover physically from the process. My physical recovery was very easy but mental one nor so much. DH and I spent a good chunk of our time off (he had. 4 weeks off for paternity leave which his boss let him use) away from home.

I'm sorry for your loss

This.

I recommend having your boss or colleague let everyone in the office know (even clients if they knew you were pregnant). That way you don't have to field congratulations and newborn questions when you get back. I went back to work slowly, first day back went in for a meeting. Next couple of days, stayed for only a half day. I also was completely off email for 3 weeks (with my first I answered email throughout maternity leave), but my boss wanted me to be able to have as much of a break as needed.

Agree wholeheartedly with this.

Anonymous wrote:I have been through this unfortunately. You are entitled to the 6-8 weeks (depending on type of delivery) as that time is intended for you to recover physically from the process. My physical recovery was very easy but mental one nor so much. DH and I spent a good chunk of our time off (he had. 4 weeks off for paternity leave which his boss let him use) away from home.

I'm sorry for your loss

This.

I recommend having your boss or colleague let everyone in the office know (even clients if they knew you were pregnant). That way you don't have to field congratulations and newborn questions when you get back. I went back to work slowly, first day back went in for a meeting. Next couple of days, stayed for only a half day. I also was completely off email for 3 weeks (with my first I answered email throughout maternity leave), but my boss wanted me to be able to have as much of a break as needed.

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Anonymous wrote:Very sorry OP. So so sorry. I had a stillborn delivered at 30 weeks. I felt fine physically and decided to go back to work after 3.5 weeks. Worst decision ever because I still looked pregnant and I just got constant questions about when baby was due etc etc. If you work in an office with the same people everyday whom know your situation you wouldn't have this issue though. I am a care provider and deal with patients so I see people who know nothing about me constantly. So if I had to re do it all over again I would take 6 weeks off at least.

I find this hard to believe. A month later you looked pregnant enough that ppl thought you were expecting??? Even if you had weight to lose its not in a pregnant belly shape.

Go away.

Given birth--the physical recovery is still necessary, let alone the emotional. I am so sorry, OP.

My deepest sympathy OP.

Anonymous wrote:Very sorry OP. So so sorry. I had a stillborn delivered at 30 weeks. I felt fine physically and decided to go back to work after 3.5 weeks. Worst decision ever because I still looked pregnant and I just got constant questions about when baby was due etc etc. If you work in an office with the same people everyday whom know your situation you wouldn't have this issue though. I am a care provider and deal with patients so I see people who know nothing about me constantly. So if I had to re do it all over again I would take 6 weeks off at least.

I find this hard to believe. A month later you looked pregnant enough that ppl thought you were expecting??? Even if you had weight to lose its not in a pregnant belly shape.

I can't even imagine how difficult that would be. Six weeks! I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.