My DH is also a terrible gift giver. The main problem is that he is seemingly blind to aesthetics. He appears not to notice what I (or others) wear, so he has no idea what I have or don't have, nor any idea of what might suit me or my style. He also has a very different idea than I do of what is pretty or beautiful (this is a tactful way of saying he has bad taste, lol).

Oh well, he has other wonderful attributes. And he appears to think I'm beautiful, so I can't really fault him too much, lol.

I just say "mmm I love those jimmy choo shoes/boots" and I get them

My husband actually gives pretty good gifts - he has good taste in jewelry - BUT once he hits on something which I genuinely like, he goes with that item for several years, so I get several necklaces which are nice but too similar to each other. He is so well meaning and sweet I have trouble saying anything about it.

Anonymous wrote:So far I've seen UPS packages from Duluth Trading Company and some tie-dye seller on ebay.

LOL OP that's awesome

Great to read a thread like this about husbands who may not be the best at giving the right gift but are nonetheless appreciated.

Such a contrast to most of the other threads that do nothing other than complain about their husbands - sometimes for the most trivial reasons.

I buy and wrap my own gift and give it to DH to give to me. When he does that I dramatically sigh, "Ohhh, for me? So sweet!"

I am happy, he is happy.

Though - once he bought a really beautiful diamond necklace for me and I was shocked.

I had a boyfriend give this to me for my birthday, except it was purple. I have no idea what it really is, i was so pissed.

http://www.pinterest.com/pin/456763587180219002/

My poor husband - he's just not a planner. For my first birthday we were together he ran out to Target the day of and got me tea and a planner (???). I dropped hints about Christmas that year and got what I asked for: jewelry.

DH and I are both perfectionists and picky. It's practically impossible to give us a surprise gift we'd love. Actually, I hate surprises.

So I ask DH exactly what he wants, and if he waffles, he runs the risk of either not getting anything (which he wouldn't mind!) or getting something he didn't ask for and that he doesn't like. For my gifts, I tell DH exactly what I want, or sometimes I just buy things for myself and tell him afterwards.

It's worked for us for 14 years.

LOLing at the tie dye seller package. Bless his heart.

Then don't let DH waste money buying you stuff. Buy what you want and call it a day.

Mine is the same! We just stopped exchanging gifts. It was too stressful on him and I didn't feel it was necessary.

I keep a private ongoing list of ideas for my SO and an open list of ideas for me. Big and small items. Gives him choices that he knows I'll like. He does a great job trying, better than yours, but I am very hard to shop for!

Give him this:
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-the-Right-Gift-for-Your-Wife

I just tell him exactly the item that should be purchased, with a link. If it goes on sale, he gets an update.