Anonymous wrote:Google Emotional Affair. Also stop using people.

This.

"emotional crutch", she is tired of being this for you.

Your married, your not attracted to her but, yet, you're "flirting" with her. Maybe she's had enough that?

Anonymous wrote:She is starting to develop feelings for you and is protecting herself, since you made it clear you're not attracted to her.

^^ I think this is the response OP was looking for.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because she thinks you are bordering on an emotional affair. She doesn't want to be your therapist, and you've made it clear that you are just using her as a crutch. So she's getting nothing from the relationship and kicked you to the curb.

This is what she means. And it sounds like she's right. Leave her alone.

Google Emotional Affair. Also stop using people.

Anonymous wrote:First of all I don't want judgement about right or wrong. I'm married and I've been good friends with a woman. We chat a lot online and she's a good emotional crutch. I've told her that I'm not sexually attracted to her and she's replied that same here and it's just "banter", even though we've occasionally flirted (nothing dirty) during our chatting.

So this morning I get a long email from her saying:

"I've done a lot of thinking this weekend and I'm uncomfortable with our conversations and friendship even though I really enjoy it at the time" Blah blah blah, "I see a lot of light and goodness in you and you need to work through things" blah blah blah, "If you need help with specific questions please email me other than that I'll see you around on the facebook wall".

I thought she knew we were "just friends"? Why this?

I am a married woman and I got a similar email from a single guy friend. Reason?

The new gf is apparently the jealous type.

I still don't know for sure whether she 'made' him write it, or he wrote it himself to try and appease her. It had good vocab so my guess is she dictated it lol. Not sure why she even for a second worried that her bf is attracted to my old married lady pack of kids self

But it still hurts that I got the 'boot' electronically, rather than face to face-you can't read faces and expression through email and that would have helped.

OP, I'm sorry this happened to you, it's not fun. My guess is she got a jealous bf.

Anonymous wrote:She felt like the flirting was going too far and was no longer comfortable with it.

x2

She doesn't want to talk to you again, ever.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:are you the asshole getting naked pictures from the woman who works in your building?
If not, why tell her so bluntly you aren't attracted to her? Did she say something to warrant that? Are you surprised she's no longer having fun flirting with someone who is not sexually attracted to her?

Wow! Where did this come from? You have your own issues it seems.

-NP

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/432648.page

Why are you confused? Your behavior is inappropriate. Your are married and yet, you flirt with her and call her your "emotional crutch".

Here is what many people miss in their marriages - a sense of newness and a friendship between a man and a woman. Yes, ideally your spouse should be your everything, but they are not. You could have a wonderful marriage but you still might enjoy flirting with someone else who does not see you as a spouse or a co-parent. So, I am not judging you at all. I do want to tell you though that for women this kind of emotional connection is a precursor to a romantic one. Your friend has realized that, and also realized that you are giving her something that she is missing - the feeling of a man leaning on her emotionally and so she is feeling valued by you. She has also realized that it is neither healthy for both of you nor for her marriage.

Obviously, her marriage and family is more valuable and based on reality than your internet friendship and flirting. She is trying to stay on the right path and break the emotional habit of being with you online. This is hard for you. She is being honest to an extent and wants to nip it in the bud because there is 1) no future with you and 2) her marriage is not broken that she needs a change.

Respect that. Know that it is not you and that it is very hard for her too. It is also time for you to find some hobby to fill up that time that she and you spent together. Do not go in search for a replacement. You need to do something for yourself but not with another person.

Now, if only I could take this same advice.

Don't take it so personally -- its more about her than you. Just say something nice, OK, and bye.

Anonymous wrote:are you the asshole getting naked pictures from the woman who works in your building?
If not, why tell her so bluntly you aren't attracted to her? Did she say something to warrant that? Are you surprised she's no longer having fun flirting with someone who is not sexually attracted to her?

Wow! Where did this come from? You have your own issues it seems.

-NP

She is starting to develop feelings for you and is protecting herself, since you made it clear you're not attracted to her.