What unnecessarily rude responses to the OP. She was obviously just posting seeking experiences from people who have been in her same situation. I've seen plenty of posts from people who say they went back to work after having a kid for non-monetary reasons (such as wanting to have adult conversations or because they just love working), so it's not weird that she specified that she went back for economic reasons.

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Well, Im a former SAHM that does not have to work (in fact, my DH prefers I not work, lol). But I really live my job. I am making a real difference in the world-- Im a high level policy decisionmaker for the large state I live in (not DC). I get to see my work affect millions of people a few months after I make the call. Amazing feeling. I love being a mom (and will always cherish my years at home). But, now Im happy to be able to contribute to the "greater good" and still be a good mom now that they're in school full time.

That said, the transition was rough-- first six months were hard on me. Both bec I missed my kids and had my insecurities about returning to work. But, now that I have my "groove back," I am in my elelment. I have two high level degrees - so I thrive at work (in a way that pickup/crafts/cooking/etc would never fulfill me).

Humble brag.
That's not the question OP asked though, did she?

Anonymous wrote:Sorry the gravy train ran dry, OP.

Or not.

Imagine - contributing financially to your family's lifestyle and wellbeing! THE HORROR!

oh shut up

If you hate your particular job, start looking for another one. If you hate working in general, you're just going to have to suck it up. The reality is that most, but not all, people don't have jobs that are hugely meaningful to them. Keep yourself focused on the fact that the paycheck is supporting your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Wohm mom. Guess what? We work for economic reasons too.

I'm a WOHM and I work because I enjoy my job, and the thought of being a SAHM makes me want to gouge my eyes out.

If you won the lottery you would still work at your job? Lol.

I am 10:27, and if I won the lottery, I wold still work. It might not be at my current job though. I actually have this planned out. I would manage the renovation of historical homes sort of like Nicole Curtis.

Well, Im a former SAHM that does not have to work (in fact, my DH prefers I not work, lol). But I really live my job. I am making a real difference in the world-- Im a high level policy decisionmaker for the large state I live in (not DC). I get to see my work affect millions of people a few months after I make the call. Amazing feeling. I love being a mom (and will always cherish my years at home). But, now Im happy to be able to contribute to the "greater good" and still be a good mom now that they're in school full time.

That said, the transition was rough-- first six months were hard on me. Both bec I missed my kids and had my insecurities about returning to work. But, now that I have my "groove back," I am in my elelment. I have two high level degrees - so I thrive at work (in a way that pickup/crafts/cooking/etc would never fulfill me).

I stayed home until my youngest was in first grade, and then worked part time for someone I hated until I'd built up the contacts and experience I needed to work for myself full time. Much happier now.

Sorry the gravy train ran dry, OP.

Or not.

Imagine - contributing financially to your family's lifestyle and wellbeing! THE HORROR!

OP,

I hear what you are saying. You would rather SAHM but now have to work because you need the money. On top of that, you hate your work. Let me ask you this - are you fulfilling your financial requirements from this job? If you are, then you hunker down and do the job. You look around too for another job that will be a better fit for you if possible. However, you do not have the luxury of not keeping the stiff upper lip if you are doing it for financial reasons. THIS is what many people who work do. This includes single parents, WOHMs, and WOHDs.

Now, having said that - if you expected that there would have been no impact on your kids, household etc., when you went back to work - that is never going to happen. You and your family will have to pitch in and make some sacrifices because time becomes more precious. But, that just means - welcome to the world of working for pay adults. So, look carefully why you do not like the job. I suspect that you are having a hard time not being there for your kids and house,like you used to. Again, that is the reality for very many people.

And MANY, MANY, MANY people work for economic reasons. and MANY, MANY, MANY people hate it.

I started back to work part time with a 2 and 4 year old and I hate the planning and strategy stuff for finding a preschool for the older one the days I work , a nanny who will do drop off and pick up, planning meals the nanny can put together and having them all ready , altering my schedule around my husbands schedule to relieve the nanny on days he has late meetings , on and on.
It was much easier to just do whatever we wanted , whenever we wanted, without all this advance planning

OP, I'll bite at your question because I'm a pregnant FTM who is going to have to continue working for economic reasons once the baby arrives. I'll get 3 months or so of maternity leave and then it's back to my job, which I do not love.

That being said, while I do not love the subject matter of my job (it's a very boring regulatory attorney job), I try to focus on what I do like about it. It's flexible, allows work from home several days a week, and my coworkers are very nice for the most part. For where I am at in life, this job works, but I am always keeping an eye out for a new position.

Like you said, home is where the heart is. But I remind myself that it is my job that will help allow us to pay for our home, start a college fund, take family vacations, etc.

For the most part, being able to decide whether to work is a luxury (regardless of whether you choose to SAH or work a job you love). Most of us make the decision based on economic reasons -- some moms work because they need the money and some SAH because they can't afford childcare. Sounds like you are no longer in the luxurious position of being able to choose to work or not, but that is real life. Welcome to what the rest of us deal with all the time except we don't have a few years of being able to choose to work or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Can we get back to the topic? I'm a SAHM, and I'm interested to know what it's like for other SAHMs that have gone back to work. (I'm not OP.)

Does every thread have to derail to SAHM vs. WM? Hold the judgment.

Hold the judgment?

How is this dingbat posting any different from those of us who HAVE BEEN in the workforce?

Some of us hate our jobs; others love them.

For those who can't stand their jobs, they look elsewhere while DEALING with the BS at their current jobs.

stupid question

We didn't create the division; OP did.

Her situation applies to men, too.

Why reply?

OP here.. Let me re-phrase. If you hate your job, how do you get through your days until you can find another position? Listen to music, take long lunch, be passive-aggressive??? Like one NICE poster said, it will take awhile... Home is where the heart is...

OP, both your first post and this follow up make you sound entitled and foolish, which may be why you're not receiving the support you want.

Everyone works for economic reasons because that is what adults do. They provide for their families. They do what needs to be done. For whatever reason, you once had the luxury of allowing someone else to provide for you. Personally, I think this is irresponsible, but it is a valid choice in life, whether I respect it or not. So, don't bother trying to convince me that SAH is some hard and essential job. Now you need to actually provide for yourself and your family and you are whining about hating your job and wondering what lazy people do to waste time until someone drops some ideal job in their laps.

Seriously? Grow up. Work is what you make of it. If you hate your job, get off your ass and find another. Listening to music? Taking long lunches? Those are nothing but time wasters. Accept that you are now responsible for yourself and make the professional life you want to have. So sorry you won't find this NICE, but I don't suffer fools and you are acting like a fool.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wohm mom. Guess what? We work for economic reasons too.

I'm a WOHM and I work because I enjoy my job, and the thought of being a SAHM makes me want to gouge my eyes out.

If you won the lottery you would still work at your job? Lol.

I want to start an organization that helps SN children live independently. Sort of like leisure world but for SN people.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.. Let me re-phrase. If you hate your job, how do you get through your days until you can find another position? Listen to music, take long lunch, be passive-aggressive??? Like one NICE poster said, it will take awhile... Home is where the heart is...

It depends upon the degree of "hate" and the why you "hate" your job? If you hate it because you have to leave your children in daycare, than no other job is going to be any better. If you hate the work, find more interesting work. If you hate your colleagues, socialize with other people. What, specifically, do you hate about your job?