Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 18:12     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Physical is worse. Woman here.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 17:35     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:Don't give a damn if my DH is having physical affairs. This sort of experience means only slightly more than masturbation, and I don't get upset over that. However, I expect him to respect me enough to leave no tracks.

Do you have sex with your husband? Or are you a person that just isn't phazed by him having sex with others no matter the circumstances at home? If the latter, did you guys talk about that and agree before getting married?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 17:27     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Don't give a damn if my DH is having physical affairs. This sort of experience means only slightly more than masturbation, and I don't get upset over that. However, I expect him to respect me enough to leave no tracks.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 15:24     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Many of you who respond that emotional affairs are worse seem to think that a physical affair is just physical, with no feelings involved. I don't think that's the case, many physical affairs also involved emotions that are deep and complicated. So, for me, I think a physical affair is way worse than an emotional one.


+1

I am a DW with a checked out DH having an affair, and the emotions between us are a little out of control. Physical affairs do not happen in a vacuum.


Pp here. This reads awkwardly...my DH is checked out, and I am having the affair. Just to clarify.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 15:23     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:Many of you who respond that emotional affairs are worse seem to think that a physical affair is just physical, with no feelings involved. I don't think that's the case, many physical affairs also involved emotions that are deep and complicated. So, for me, I think a physical affair is way worse than an emotional one.


+1

I am a DW with a checked out DH having an affair, and the emotions between us are a little out of control. Physical affairs do not happen in a vacuum.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 15:13     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Emotional. No question whatsoever. None.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 15:11     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
I agree....I say physical because once you take off your clothes + get down and dirty w/another person the way you do w/your significant other, that type of bond is broken and nothing can seal it back up.

Whereas in an emotional act of infidelity, it can just be a breakdown of communication issues, but can be overcome and forgiven much easier w/counseling.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 14:16     Subject: Re:Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:What exactly is an emotional affair? I'm a married woman and my best friend is a man. Is that an emotional affair?


Not unless you are in love with him.

Emotional affairs are definitely real and are far more dangerous to a marriage. Some physical affairs are obviously also emotional affairs. But no one is leaving their spouse for a decent lay. They do leave if they think they have found their soulmate.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 14:12     Subject: Re:Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
What exactly is an emotional affair? I'm a married woman and my best friend is a man. Is that an emotional affair?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 14:05     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:For men, physical because it puts into question bedroom performance and penis size. For women, emotional because they fear a DH falling in love with someone else.


Really? If a woman cheats on a man he questions his penis size?


Man here. It has nothing to do with penis size. There's someone who trolls DCUM that's obsessed with penis size. Women, correct me if I'm wrong, but how many of you have or would have an extra- marital affair simply due to penis size? Men, how many of you assume women have affairs because of penis size?

On thread: to me, an emotional affair would be harder, but either would suck. Emotional affairs consume the APs 24/7 and are, IMO, harder to resolve and step away from.


This doesn't seem so far-fetched to me. If the wife was always meh about her husband's size and performance, I could definitely see her seeking out an affair for that reason.


Performance, sure. But performance is not nearly as correlated with size as many men seem to think.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 13:33     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Many of you who respond that emotional affairs are worse seem to think that a physical affair is just physical, with no feelings involved. I don't think that's the case, many physical affairs also involved emotions that are deep and complicated. So, for me, I think a physical affair is way worse than an emotional one.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 12:43     Subject: Re:Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:Unless there is a physical relationship, there is no affair. I don't buy the whole emotional affair nonsense. It is wrong for a married man to become emotionally intimate with a women other than his wife. It probably leads to an affair a majority of the time. But until they have sex, it simply is not an affair.


Woman here, and I completely agree.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 12:40     Subject: Re:Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Unless there is a physical relationship, there is no affair. I don't buy the whole emotional affair nonsense. It is wrong for a married man to become emotionally intimate with a women other than his wife. It probably leads to an affair a majority of the time. But until they have sex, it simply is not an affair.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 12:35     Subject: Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
Anonymous wrote:There is no coming back from a physical affair. I'll never stop seeing the two of you together, even if he's faceless. Him doing stuff to you. Worse, you doing stuff to him.

There's no way back from that without endlessly feeling like a chump. No amount "but I love you" can fix the physical aspect.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2014 12:31     Subject: Re:Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?
I use to think physical and now I don't know anymore. Great movie about this with Kiera Knightly called "Last Night". After watching this you will ask yourself a thousand times which is worst and may not have an answer.