Anonymous
12/14/2014 11:15
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
In our former house, the front door opened into a small foyer area in our split foyer and we had to go up the (carpeted) steps to access the coat closet. Not good.
What I ended up doing was hanging a coat rack in that little foyer area and I the put a basic shoe cubbie with some baskets set on top of it for gloves, hats, miscl. And we used that system for years and it worked well for us. As soon as we walked in the door, shoes, coats came off on were put away.
With your large foyer area, you have the option of doing something similar on a much nicer scale - think pottery barn. You could also possibly put a small shoe cubbie in that half bath for shoes and maybe an over the door coat hanger for jackets.
What I ended up doing was hanging a coat rack in that little foyer area and I the put a basic shoe cubbie with some baskets set on top of it for gloves, hats, miscl. And we used that system for years and it worked well for us. As soon as we walked in the door, shoes, coats came off on were put away.
With your large foyer area, you have the option of doing something similar on a much nicer scale - think pottery barn. You could also possibly put a small shoe cubbie in that half bath for shoes and maybe an over the door coat hanger for jackets.
Anonymous
12/14/2014 10:52
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OK so I think you're going about this the wrong way. You need to convince him subconsiouclsy.
1) Start off by saying something like: I just really wish we had a mudroom, this clutter is getting bad. Keep talking about this for a few weeks.
2)Then you propose the idea as a "thought", not a definite solution (although you already know it's the answer).
3) When he mentions the new mudroom in the entry way, you tell him that HIS idea is a really good one and you really think it would work.
4) Then slide into talking about your solution as a definite fact.
That normally makes my husband do it, but if your husband hasn't, then you hire a handyman or whatever you need to do to make it happen. I have talked for years about what great ideas my husband has and how creative he is. I don't even think at this point he realizes that every idea was mine in the first place.
I love it. I'm not OP but I'm going to start doing this...
Men like to fix things. This is how I approach things with my husband when he gets stubborn.
I have also learned over the years how to do things myself (like use a drill, paint, etc.). Youtube is great for this. Threatening to hire someone also frequently works for me.
Anonymous
12/14/2014 10:42
Subject: Re:Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Call a handyman and put the door back on. Personally, I like entering my own home through the front door.
Anonymous
12/14/2014 10:08
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Admit you were wrong about the closet redesign. Ask nicely for mudroom as Xmas present. Or admit you were wrong about closet and hire handyman and take care of it yourself. Sounds like a good idea.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 23:59
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
It does not matter who is right. He had to live with you. It is in his interests to fix it and keep you happy.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 23:55
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
My husband also hates home repair stuff. I try to do most of it myself, but then prioritize what I do want him to do. I find it helps to be upfront and let him do it on his schedule. Like this: "There are two things that I'd really like for you to do for me before the baby is born. If you don't want to do them, I'd like to just hire a handyman to do it, okay? The two things are X and Y. I know you don't think this is top priority, but it would really make me way, way happier to have this taken care of and I would really appreciate it if we could get it done." If you have a husband that hates this stuff, you need to decide if this is important enough that you want to spend some of your goodwill/capital on it, recognizing that there's a limited supply of that, and you don't want to waste it.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 21:41
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Anonymous wrote:OK so I think you're going about this the wrong way. You need to convince him subconsiouclsy.
1) Start off by saying something like: I just really wish we had a mudroom, this clutter is getting bad. Keep talking about this for a few weeks.
2)Then you propose the idea as a "thought", not a definite solution (although you already know it's the answer).
3) When he mentions the new mudroom in the entry way, you tell him that HIS idea is a really good one and you really think it would work.
4) Then slide into talking about your solution as a definite fact.
That normally makes my husband do it, but if your husband hasn't, then you hire a handyman or whatever you need to do to make it happen. I have talked for years about what great ideas my husband has and how creative he is. I don't even think at this point he realizes that every idea was mine in the first place.
Oh for god sakes.
Women should be able to say what they would like in a straightforward manner. They shouldn't have to manipulate their husband into thinking it is his idea.
I'm guessing you are from a Latin or Mediterranean culture?
Anonymous
12/10/2014 21:37
Subject: Re:Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Stop nagging him. You want it done, then do it or hire someone else to do it. You are way over thinking this.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 21:34
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
lean a baby gate against the closet.
OP, you are over thinking. My guess is husband is tired of hearing about closets, foyers, mudrooms.
OP, you are over thinking. My guess is husband is tired of hearing about closets, foyers, mudrooms.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 21:19
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Anonymous wrote:OK so I think you're going about this the wrong way. You need to convince him subconsiouclsy.
1) Start off by saying something like: I just really wish we had a mudroom, this clutter is getting bad. Keep talking about this for a few weeks.
2)Then you propose the idea as a "thought", not a definite solution (although you already know it's the answer).
3) When he mentions the new mudroom in the entry way, you tell him that HIS idea is a really good one and you really think it would work.
4) Then slide into talking about your solution as a definite fact.
That normally makes my husband do it, but if your husband hasn't, then you hire a handyman or whatever you need to do to make it happen. I have talked for years about what great ideas my husband has and how creative he is. I don't even think at this point he realizes that every idea was mine in the first place.
I love it. I'm not OP but I'm going to start doing this...
Anonymous
12/10/2014 19:29
Subject: Re:Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Eh. He is marking his territory. find this is a very male habit.
Just model the behavior you want. It will be good practice for when you have a toddler. You can mention to him on occasion and as appropriate that you put such and such in the mudrooms. If something is clearly in the way, like if you trip over his shoes with the baby in the bucket, he may get the message. He might become more organized when said baby-turned infant starts tossing his misplaced stuff around.
Just model the behavior you want. It will be good practice for when you have a toddler. You can mention to him on occasion and as appropriate that you put such and such in the mudrooms. If something is clearly in the way, like if you trip over his shoes with the baby in the bucket, he may get the message. He might become more organized when said baby-turned infant starts tossing his misplaced stuff around.
Anonymous
12/10/2014 18:08
Subject: Am I asking too much? DH and I are having a disagreement...
Your husband is an ass and things will get much worse when the baby comes.
What is a "lawyer foyer"?
What is a "lawyer foyer"?