Smells like Kilmer.

OP. Yeah. I can see what you guys are saying.

Sorry, OP, but it puts my recent (private school) communication in perspective. Trying to stay rational and believe others genuinely want to help. Remember no one will be as passionnate and well informed about your kid as you.

Anonymous wrote:OP. I was so patronized, I'm laughing to make it bearable. The BCBA wouldn't clarify or define for me "negative reinforcement". Would only define "reinforcement". *I* had to ask her if its defined by outcome or intentions. Face palm.

If you want help from people who have btdt, you are going to have to give a little more info than this.

Has the BCBA come up with a behavior plan? Is it working?

I would absolutely look at private schools if that is at all a possibility for you financially?

Does your child have a behavior plan? It will allow you to put the brakes on "negative reinforcement" to some extent.

I understand your desire for privacy but you should be able to communicate in complete meaningful sentences.

OP,

Your telegraphic style is not helping us advise you, but I suppose you just wanted to vent.

I don't see a problem with the VP's comments. Learning disabilities and special needs can't be magically erased away with school accommodations, therapies and medication. Statistically, kids with issues will end up being disciplined more frequently than others. This does not mean they are not doing their best working upstream to prevent it.

From your cryptic comments, my impression is that your expectations are perhaps not realistic, and that you are quick to put the worst spin possible on what the school does and says. With reason, who knows? But you're not giving us enough info.

Just my two cents, from personal experience and those of others. There will always be conflicting interests when managing a child's special needs at school - but tensions can be smoothed when everyone around the table assumes others have the best intentions. Stay rational and objective.

OP. Let me put the rose on top of the cake. The VP said, "I have the same kids in my office, everyday who are very bright, but are there b/c of behavior issues" woah.

I understand. I just want to keep my DC's privacy