Anonymous wrote:If my DH made $225,000, I'd gladly stay home. Exercise, knit, cook, clean, help out at school, and shlep my kids to soccer practice. It would be awesome.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

OP here. I think any amount that works for a family and any combination of earning and non-earning members or revenue stream (SAHP, WOHP, WAHP, Dual income, single income, single parent, divorced parent, alimony, child-support, govt. assistance) that is useful for raising a family is great.

The financial definition of failure in this area is so skewed and so messed up that I am aghast. Around the nation an HHI of 100K means something. And I am sure that there are many people on DCUM who are making less than that and they feel like failures because this forum is full of people bandying around paychecks of 1M +.

If you believe even half of what you read on here about people's incomes, I have a bridge I want to sell you. Do you also believe all the rich people drive beat up Hondas? That's another dcum truism that cracks me up.

True. My honda isn't beat up at all! A little dirty maybe.

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

OP here. I think any amount that works for a family and any combination of earning and non-earning members or revenue stream (SAHP, WOHP, WAHP, Dual income, single income, single parent, divorced parent, alimony, child-support, govt. assistance) that is useful for raising a family is great.

The financial definition of failure in this area is so skewed and so messed up that I am aghast. Around the nation an HHI of 100K means something. And I am sure that there are many people on DCUM who are making less than that and they feel like failures because this forum is full of people bandying around paychecks of 1M +.

If you believe even half of what you read on here about people's incomes, I have a bridge I want to sell you. Do you also believe all the rich people drive beat up Hondas? That's another dcum truism that cracks me up.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of DW's on this forum seem to have a DH who makes $155,000. Not sure why this is such a common figure, unless it is the same person posting again and again.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of DW's on this forum seem to have a DH who makes $155,000. Not sure why this is such a common figure, unless it is the same person posting again and again.

Anonymous wrote:Every second person on this forum is wife of CEO or surgeon

Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

OP here. And yes, thank you, that is the spirit of asking this question.

And so I have bolded what has been written by you, as a thread ender.

Not really. There is value outside of your family if you believe giving back is an important part of your ethos.

If e family has enough money does that mean one person should be play golf everyday and/or drinking in a bar... Or getting her nails done a crowning a bottle of wine... Isn't there some value to give back in some way.

Actually, not really. What is giving back? Maybe just being "green" is giving back. Maybe being pleasant is giving back. Maybe getting nails done and patronising local business is giving back. Maybe just not being a racist is giving back.

There is nothing wrong with playing golf everyday, getting nails done, getting a spa treatment, drinking wine or going to a bar - If you have the money and time for it, and you are not harming anyone.

If you want to volunteer - it is up to you. I volunteer a lot. That is a part of my personality. However, I do not like when people who volunteer start getting upset about others who don't. That is a very condescending attitude and it basically signifies that you want praise and acknowledgement for your volunteering. You should volunteer because you want to and because it makes you feel good. Not for recognition and not to feel morally superior to others.

No thanks, if 1 spouse makes "enough" money and the other is in a bar all day... Call me morally superior but that is not okay with me. If my spouse does not want to work I would expect them to do something valuable for society and if they did not I would not respect them enough to stay married.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

OP here. And yes, thank you, that is the spirit of asking this question.

And so I have bolded what has been written by you, as a thread ender.

Not really. There is value outside of your family if you believe giving back is an important part of your ethos.

If e family has enough money does that mean one person should be play golf everyday and/or drinking in a bar... Or getting her nails done a crowning a bottle of wine... Isn't there some value to give back in some way.

Actually, not really. What is giving back? Maybe just being "green" is giving back. Maybe being pleasant is giving back. Maybe getting nails done and patronising local business is giving back. Maybe just not being a racist is giving back.

There is nothing wrong with playing golf everyday, getting nails done, getting a spa treatment, drinking wine or going to a bar - If you have the money and time for it, and you are not harming anyone.

If you want to volunteer - it is up to you. I volunteer a lot. That is a part of my personality. However, I do not like when people who volunteer start getting upset about others who don't. That is a very condescending attitude and it basically signifies that you want praise and acknowledgement for your volunteering. You should volunteer because you want to and because it makes you feel good. Not for recognition and not to feel morally superior to others.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

OP here. And yes, thank you, that is the spirit of asking this question.

And so I have bolded what has been written by you, as a thread ender.

Not really. There is value outside of your family if you believe giving back is an important part of your ethos.

If e family has enough money does that mean one person should be play golf everyday and/or drinking in a bar... Or getting her nails done a crowning a bottle of wine... Isn't there some value to give back in some way.

Anonymous wrote:A lot of DW's on this forum seem to have a DH who makes $155,000. Not sure why this is such a common figure, unless it is the same person posting again and again.