Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. One of them remarried another lawyer. Wouldn't that minimize, or greatly reduce the financial ties to the ex?

Why? How?

Well, he wouldn't had to pay the ex-wife alimony, for one thing. It might also reduce child support payments.

You want to marry him or sleep with him?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. One of them remarried another lawyer. Wouldn't that minimize, or greatly reduce the financial ties to the ex?

Why? How?

Well, he wouldn't had to pay the ex-wife alimony, for one thing. It might also reduce child support payments.

Lol. There's definitely a consensus here.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. One of them remarried another lawyer. Wouldn't that minimize, or greatly reduce the financial ties to the ex?

Why? How?

Anonymous wrote:What would you think of this guy? Both of his ex wives married again. He had 1 DD with the first wife and a DD and a DS with second wife. Not sure how far along into the marriages the divorces happened. Good looking guy, fit, lawyer. Would you assume he's the problem?

Yes.

Definitely. Something's off.

MikeL wrote:Get in contact with me. I'll help you out on that front

Come on really? I assume you're married right? What would you think of a woman that would actually consider taking you up on that? Who does this? I mean my NC guy, I knew 30 years ago really well.

Get in contact with me. I'll help you out on that front

OP here--*sigh* I won't. But no sex in 5 years. Lust is one hell of a drug. But yes obviously, when you lay it all out as you have here, it's insane and I must stop this.

Don't be a fool.

Anonymous wrote:OP--Ok scared to admit it because I would be flamed because, I am also 50s and married w/kids and have known this guy since college but we have't spoken in 30 years and he reached out to me and we've been chatting. I have an asexual marriage so this a pretty dangerous guy for me to be talking to probably. But he was so hot in college and still is.

Run for your life and slam the door shut. If you don't, you will ruin your life and mess up the lives of your kids. Please listen to the sound advice PP's have given you.

OP--Ok scared to admit it because I would be flamed because, I am also 50s and married w/kids and have known this guy since college but we have't spoken in 30 years and he reached out to me and we've been chatting. I have an asexual marriage so this a pretty dangerous guy for me to be talking to probably. But he was so hot in college and still is.

OP here--I do wonder what will become of him though. He seems very angry and hateful of his mother--he talks about her quite a bit. I suppose he will have a pretty lonely life in the long run because after all who will ave a long term relationship with him? Divorced women his own age who will put up with exactly none of his shit. Or some 19 y o innocent with some wide eyed outlook. I think he's actually still in love with his college/law school girlfriend that he broke up with 25 years ago or his high school gf--bc he still talks about both of them quite a bit.

Third marriages have a 73% divorce rate. I have zero interest in taking that on, so I wouldn't get involved with him with any intention of a serious relationship.

Wait, wait, wait! OP, is actually considering this man, so, we need to ask why? Maybe she is no spring chicken and has her own issues. In this case, perhaps the guy is a good match.

Op, give us your details.