Anonymous
Post 12/02/2014 09:16     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:Ignore her. She's 24 and just starting out on her own. She needs to insult you to be confident in herself. It sucks, but she'll stop soon. Re-friend her on Facebook. She still needs her family even though she's being an a-hole.


I wouldn't refriend her.
Anonymous
Post 12/02/2014 08:26     Subject: Mean niece
Ignore her. She's 24 and just starting out on her own. She needs to insult you to be confident in herself. It sucks, but she'll stop soon. Re-friend her on Facebook. She still needs her family even though she's being an a-hole.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 23:15     Subject: Mean niece
Or, you know, call her out for being the ass she is.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 22:52     Subject: Mean niece
Try not acting as uncle and aunt with the ages being so close together. Treat her as you would any other 24 yr old friend. She sounds like a brat and maybe used to your DH giving her all the attention. She could just be jealous you are in the picture.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 20:09     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:She is 24....let it go.
Yes, she probably thinks she's being clever and grown up but hopefully in another 10 years she'll look back on it and realize she acted like an asshole. I cringe when I remember some of the things I said in my 20s.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 19:30     Subject: Mean niece
^ +1



OP, your husband is on the same page as you, and that's all that matters. The two of you should be polite and no more to this ingrate. Stop going out of your way for her. Expect nothing of her.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 19:19     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ok I think I just need to vent a little bit.You are welcomed to call me silly,immature and etc.I can take it,because maybe I am ?
Anyways my niece(my DH line) is being very mean toward me .She is 24 and I am 31(my DH is 35).So not much age diffrence and I look pretty young .I went to school very late (poor background)and had troubles finding a job ,my DH has connections in her industry(they work in same industry),so he got her a good job right after college with good starting salary.
During last time we visit her she acted entitled not even towards me but towards DH(her uncle who helped her).She was calling me shepherd wife who only make sandwiches to her husband and told my DH that he married a woman much younger than him(only 4 years difference though)for a reason .
I was trying to keep it cool and were teasing her back ,so noone in the family noticed how hurt I was.After that I went home and deleted her from Facebook (I know immature).But I didn't know how else express my anger,just didn't .
I would appreciate any feedback good or bad of how to deal with this situation ..


Tell her you didn't need to rely on nepotism to get a job. At least you earned what you have.



No, just don't engage. She sound's like an ass. What she is saying isn't funny, it's just rude.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 19:13     Subject: Re:Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You need a grammar course.


Do you speak a second language fluently, with perfect grammar? Didn't think so.


Agree pp was just being rude, but it does bring up another point. Perhaps niece is also "looking down" on OP due to her grammar and maybe the way she speaks. Anyways OP, just ignore her. Seems like your DH can't stand her either, so easy to just not pay attention to her when you're around each other.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 19:10     Subject: Re:Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:You need a grammar course.


Do you speak a second language fluently, with perfect grammar? Didn't think so.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 18:29     Subject: Re:Mean niece
Yeah, she's a bitchy, ingrate. Don't make an effort. She'll sink her own career. Good luck with getting your's started. Education is a life long endeavor and just because your formal education was a bit delayed, I'm sure you made up for it in life experience. Hugs.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 14:50     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My best guess is she's trying to be funny or sarcastic but the humor or nuance is lost in the cultural difference and translation. She'll probably grow out of it, but it might help if you're husband said something to her to let her know it hurts your feelings.


It's def not cultural as my DH thinks it's rude as well.He also got a long way to get a product from his company for her birthday and she said :"this is your present?you got it from work!"
While it was worth of $400 if she would buy it herself


So she's an ingrate. The best thing you can do is ignore her. Don't play her games or try to be her friend.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 13:55     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:My best guess is she's trying to be funny or sarcastic but the humor or nuance is lost in the cultural difference and translation. She'll probably grow out of it, but it might help if you're husband said something to her to let her know it hurts your feelings.


It's def not cultural as my DH thinks it's rude as well.He also got a long way to get a product from his company for her birthday and she said :"this is your present?you got it from work!"
While it was worth of $400 if she would buy it herself
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 13:46     Subject: Mean niece
My best guess is she's trying to be funny or sarcastic but the humor or nuance is lost in the cultural difference and translation. She'll probably grow out of it, but it might help if you're husband said something to her to let her know it hurts your feelings.
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 11:40     Subject: Re:Mean niece
Next time she is rude to you say, "Excuse me I did not know <insert her name> was coming I need to go polish a silver spoon."
Anonymous
Post 12/01/2014 11:11     Subject: Mean niece
Anonymous wrote:I'm guessing Europe (likely Eastern Europe)

So? How's it even relevant to OP's question?

OP, just ignore her. Maybe she was trying to be funny, but has not mastered sarcasm yet.

You are overreacting.