Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you let this happen? Don't be a doormat? Either get a hotel room, or say "Larla, that's not going to work for us." Every single time.

Because it's three days and really not worth hurting my parents feelings.

If you're not willing to do something to change the situation, then you forfeit the right to rant and whine.

NP. I disagree, because OP isn't ranting about the situation - she's ranting that her sister is a self centered asshole, and probably grieving the better family dynamic she wishes they could have, and there's nothing she can do about that. The particular details of this situation is just how that is being expressed. Basically she's mourning the fact that the 'good' option of her sister being a good person simply isn't on the table.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you let this happen? Don't be a doormat? Either get a hotel room, or say "Larla, that's not going to work for us." Every single time.

Because it's three days and really not worth hurting my parents feelings.

If you're not willing to do something to change the situation, then you forfeit the right to rant and whine.

I wouldn't come. Nope. Your parents are allowing this. Do something later with your parents. No way would I do 3 days of that crap

Anonymous wrote:And where are your parents sleeping? This does sound like it sucks. I'm sorry OP.

My parents have three guest bedrooms. The "nice" one is where my parents are sleeping, but the bed is very uncomfortable. There are two other rooms, one has a full and the other has two twins.

DH and I got the full with our infant, and my sisters oldest two DDs got the room with the twin beds. In the OP I think I said we were in a twin, meant a full....was ranting on my phone.

Anonymous wrote:OP, if my brother demanded his kids were getting a better room than I and my husband, two adults, were getting I'd definitely tell him that wasn't going to work. And I'd go remove their shit from the room if necessary.

Don't be such a pushover! Who cares what your sister thinks or does anyway, right? I mean, she's awful, right?

I get what you guys are saying. I really do.


I just don't think you understand how much worse my sister makes situations when things don't go her way. My brother and I have discussed this numerous times. We've both tried to put our feet down, and it ends up just making things worse for my parents. The only reason I come to Thanksgiving here is for my parents, not my sister.

Anonymous wrote:Do you also try to share beach house?

No!

We only see each other a few times a year. We don't do summer vacations together.

Anonymous wrote:OP, why do you let this happen? Don't be a doormat? Either get a hotel room, or say "Larla, that's not going to work for us." Every single time.

Because it's three days and really not worth hurting my parents feelings.

Anonymous wrote:Your lost me when you claimed you, your husband and infant would all be in a twin bed. Something isn't believable. Wouldn't you get the couch over your niece and she'd be in the floor in a sleeping bag? Wouldn't you have all known the sleeping logistics issues beforehand and brought sleeping bags for kids and a pack n play for your infant, order an air mattress?

I meant a full.

And where are your parents sleeping? This does sound like it sucks. I'm sorry OP.

OP, if my brother demanded his kids were getting a better room than I and my husband, two adults, were getting I'd definitely tell him that wasn't going to work. And I'd go remove their shit from the room if necessary.

Don't be such a pushover! Who cares what your sister thinks or does anyway, right? I mean, she's awful, right?

You need to get a hotel room ASAP.

Anonymous wrote:Next year stay in a hotel.

+1

Do you also try to share beach house?

I have one of those sisters. I'm so sorry OP. Just hang in there.

Next year stay in a hotel.