Anonymous wrote:I think he might be reaching out to you because you were with him for a while and knew his mom so you understand the depth of his loss. Or he just thought that you would want to know because you liked his mom and would care.

At any rate, I would absolutely send him a sympathy card with a personal note addressing his loss. Losing your mom is really tough.

+1. This is the kind and well-bred thing to do. Just don't get lured into sympathy sex as another poster mentioned, if that's even what he's after (and it probably isn't, but could turn into that easily enough).

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Think you're all right. Answered his email and will send a card but not call. And will just leave it at that.

Damn this is hard sometimes.

No card. You answered in the same way he contacted you , hopefully kept it brief and cordial, now no more contact .

+1 No card, OP. You already sent a note and that is sufficient.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all. Think you're all right. Answered his email and will send a card but not call. And will just leave it at that.

Damn this is hard sometimes.

No card. You answered in the same way he contacted you , hopefully kept it brief and cordial, now no more contact .

Just be kind and send him a note of sympathy. Why automatically assume he has ulterior motives.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with using the same medium that he used.

Don't move on to a phone call. If he wants to call you; he will. You are clearly a caring, empathetic person, but really, don't call. You are having trouble moving on; calling wouldn't help.

+1

+2. I wouldn't even send a card after sending him an email. You've expressed your condolences. Protect your heart.

Anonymous wrote:Agree with using the same medium that he used.

Don't move on to a phone call. If he wants to call you; he will. You are clearly a caring, empathetic person, but really, don't call. You are having trouble moving on; calling wouldn't help.

+1

Thanks all. Think you're all right. Answered his email and will send a card but not call. And will just leave it at that.

Damn this is hard sometimes.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, since you are still healing from a broken heart, it is best to keep it short & sweet.

He probably wanted you to know because his mother probably really liked you and vice versa.

+1 I had a very similar situation to yours OP. A fairly recent ex of 2 years (who broke my heart) emailed me to tell me his Grandma passed away. I think he was reaching out because she and I had really liked each other and he thought I would want to know. I wrote back and nice neutral email back to him that expressed my sympathy and that was it. The same would be sufficient for you OP.

Agree with using the same medium that he used.

Don't move on to a phone call. If he wants to call you; he will. You are clearly a caring, empathetic person, but really, don't call. You are having trouble moving on; calling wouldn't help.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not know his mom. Just heard about her. Funeral was in CA and he sent me a note from there. I sent a note back and guess I'll call in a few days to see how he's doing. Was just taken aback to get the note.

I would take it as a sign that he thinks you are a good person and he wanted to reach out to good people during this time.

Agree. Just send him a note by the same medium he used and say you are sorry for his loss or offer your condolences.

Yes, since you are still healing from a broken heart, it is best to keep it short & sweet.

He probably wanted you to know because his mother probably really liked you and vice versa.

Send a sincere but formal note of sympathy as you would to anyone else. Protect yourself emotionally. What will be, will be.

He is definitely looking for a way to communicate with you and he's using his mom's death as his 'in'. My ex is notorious for doing stuff like this.

why respond? who cares, mov eon, cold yes but hell he is just looking to get laid, do you think you are the only one who got a note?

Sympathy blowjob makes it all better.