You are being over sensitive

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Anonymous wrote:Neither?

Sounds like an absent minded comment. .
Your moron husband should have cooked, though.

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You're angry at the wrong dude.

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Remind me why you reconciled? Actually, it's refreshing to hear of people not divorcing. Your FIL was just putting in his $0.02. Take it for what it was worth. He's not naming your kid; you are. I agree with a PP. Next time get your husband to order pizza. You're just hormonal and overworked. This too shall pass.

I actually really feel badly for your FIL; this whole post is about you. Perhaps your in laws feel very awkward and your FIL is trying his best to make small talk when things are clearly tense. and FYI,you do know one any favors by cooking elaborate meals, etc if you are going to sit there and seethe and take it out on innocent bystanders.

I think you are being over-sensitive, but also, I am guessing this is a snap shot of a situation that maybe isn't fully as reconciled as you say it is. Your post screams bitter, resentful...

You're all being over-sensitive.

Welcome to the world of in-laws saying stupid things. My FIL used to insult people of my ethnic heritage openly at the table and comment on how people that held my father's profession (doctor) were all crooks stealing from honest people such as himself. It took everything I had not to knock his teeth out. Eventually he had a series of small strokes and now just smiles and can't sustain a coherent thought. My point being, you do your best to roll with it and eventually things work themselves out.

I'm putting blame on DH here. He didn't work and he didn't cook. He allowed his pregnant wife with sciatica to cook. He didn't support you when you felt offended by FIL. I'm beginning to wonder what the separation was all about and if it's resolved. This is a DH problem, IMO.

I think what you said was totally fine. It's good for you to speak up for yourself rather than seethe silently or be passive aggressive.

Your DH was out of line both for saying you overrreacted and for not helping you with the dinner. (Unless you did it all of your own accord.)

Your FIL might just be absent-minded, or he might be a moron. I strongly doubt he intentionally meant to leave you out, though. It was fine that you reminded him, but I'd leave it at that.

Meh. He was trying to make conversation. At least he was trying, and not digging at you, personally. Let it go. I honestly thought you were going to tell us he remarked about the separation!

Try not to be so thin skinned, looking for a fight. DH also needs to step it up.

Anonymous wrote:That was a lot of information just to explain your FIL's comment.

Figure out what you are really angry about.

And stop being such damn martyr. If you didn't want to cook, say so. Everyone probably would've been happy with pizzas.

The whole scene was kinda your fault.

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That was a lot of information just to explain your FIL's comment.

Figure out what you are really angry about.

And stop being such damn martyr. If you didn't want to cook, say so. Everyone probably would've been happy with pizzas.

The whole scene was kinda your fault.

FIL: Nervous and stupid

You: Trying too hard to please your ILs after you and DH reconciled, exhausting yourself, and generally nervous and pregnant and twitchy. Take better care of yourself so you won't be as inclined to snip.

DH: Where the hell is DH in all this? You worked and he didn't and you made dinner? Hells no. That's the real problem here.

I posted earlier, but wanted to chime in to say if I got worked up every time my MIL said something dumb and somewhat insulting, I would spend my life angry. I find that often ILs don't really know what to say to each other. My mom and dad have zero idea what to talk to my husband about. My MIL's conversation revolves around her son, her dog, grandchildren, ano her family's business that was sold when I was in grade school.

Did your DH ask you to cook an elaborate meal, OP? I'm trying to figure out how much of this is you seeking offense and how much is you getting a delivery unasked for.