Anonymous wrote:If OP were a husband posting about cheating on his busy wife, you would rip him to shreds.

From my observation, this may not be true in all cases, but this website does trend towards being more supportive of women who are unsatisfied compared to men. Certainly, there is more "get what you need girl!" attitude, while most threads started by men that are similar are met with condemnation. I don't think it should be all that surprising given that this website is what, 2/3 women?

Anyway OP, sorry this is the situation you're in, I'm sure it isn't easy, especially with the two kids. My wife an I have two little ones ourselves, and while neither of us travel for work, my job responsibilities have skyrocketed in the past year and she's gone back to school and is balancing grad work with her job. We try to be supportive of each other as best we can, but there are days where I wake up and it occurs to me that we haven't had sex in a week or longer, because of conflicting schedules, stress, or cycles (she's a night person, I'm a morning person).

I'd try to talk with him as best you can on the night or two he is home, explain what you need, and see where it goes. If you have family or can hire help to take the kids for a night, it might help with his lack of interest, if you have several hours to build things up. I'd stress avoiding the cheating thing if you can, there's a wealth of free videos at various websites you can watch if you need some visual stimulation, though I understand it doesn't really replace human touch.

Good luck to you.

Haha, what a turn. Op here, thanks for the responses. The sheer amount of work my husband has taken on hurts his libido. I am in both in shape and attractive. Cognizant of the temptation to cheat because I get a lot of attention from other men and not much from my husband. We have two small children. I also work full time, and am responsible for 100% of the rest of our life - from bill paying to house and car maintenance. A lot has to fall by the wayside. At some point I know I will just need an escape from all of this. I honestly just wish he cared. I have asked him to leave the job. There has been no serious consideration of it. We do have enough help to be able to do something together when he is home but he's just sort of checked out and I get so stressed out by his lack of interest that I go to the gym so that he can have time with the kids, rather than me get upset about it. I have also asked him tO go to counseling but there is little to no time for appts.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are just awful. Your husband is working very hard to provide for his family while you're bitching and moaning and contemplating cheating. Your husband is holding up his end of the deal; why can't you? It's too bad he has no idea what an ungrateful shit you are. Then again, that could be precisely the reason he took a travel assignment.

Looks like somebody wandered out from under their bridge! Are you lost or can you find your way back?

Not lost, thanks. Just incredibly surprised that you all are so supportive of someone looking to cheat after three months of heavy traveling. If OP were a husband posting about cheating on his busy wife, you would rip him to shreds.

She's not looking to cheat, she's worried she might. And how do you know the husband is the breadwinner? Note that the wife also seems to have a job that doesn't require she travel. What on earth is wrong with you?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are just awful. Your husband is working very hard to provide for his family while you're bitching and moaning and contemplating cheating. Your husband is holding up his end of the deal; why can't you? It's too bad he has no idea what an ungrateful shit you are. Then again, that could be precisely the reason he took a travel assignment.

Looks like somebody wandered out from under their bridge! Are you lost or can you find your way back?

Not lost, thanks. Just incredibly surprised that you all are so supportive of someone looking to cheat after three months of heavy traveling. If OP were a husband posting about cheating on his busy wife, you would rip him to shreds.

She isn't trying to cheat. Just cognizant of the temptation.

Anonymous wrote:Skype sex.

If OP is such a sow that he isn't doing her weekly on his nights home, there is no way he's going to want to see that live on a computer screen.

Skype sex.