Anonymous wrote:Single Mom or not, any guy who sends lots of selfies prior to meeting is a red flag. Or those that ask you to send them some. It has happened to me and I'm not a single mom. I instantly stop contact.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is eye opening to me. I'm getting divorced and will be sharing custody of my son, and was planning on online dating once divorced. I have few recent pictures of me without my son in them. I understand that someone would be dating me, but it seems like important information that I have a kid, both because raising him takes up a lot of my free time, and he is everything to me, so I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to be in a relationship with a single dad. I understand I shouldn't post pics of him on the Internet and shouldn't make my being a dad the centerpiece of my profile, but I'm curious what people recommend so as not to come off as sketchy or unbecoming. (no risk of torso pics.)

I would start by NOT saying that your son is your everything (and that advice goes to moms too). Children have no place in dating. Anyone who chooses to get involved with a parent knows that their child is important to them and that it is a 'package deal' so to speak. That doesn't need to be emphasized with pictures or multiple kid-centered statements. Focus on what you bring to the dating table (a sense of humor, a sense of adventure, etc.)

Anonymous wrote:This thread is eye opening to me. I'm getting divorced and will be sharing custody of my son, and was planning on online dating once divorced. I have few recent pictures of me without my son in them. I understand that someone would be dating me, but it seems like important information that I have a kid, both because raising him takes up a lot of my free time, and he is everything to me, so I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to be in a relationship with a single dad. I understand I shouldn't post pics of him on the Internet and shouldn't make my being a dad the centerpiece of my profile, but I'm curious what people recommend so as not to come off as sketchy or unbecoming. (no risk of torso pics.)

Anonymous wrote:This thread is eye opening to me. I'm getting divorced and will be sharing custody of my son, and was planning on online dating once divorced. I have few recent pictures of me without my son in them. I understand that someone would be dating me, but it seems like important information that I have a kid, both because raising him takes up a lot of my free time, and he is everything to me, so I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who didn't want to be in a relationship with a single dad. I understand I shouldn't post pics of him on the Internet and shouldn't make my being a dad the centerpiece of my profile, but I'm curious what people recommend so as not to come off as sketchy or unbecoming. (no risk of torso pics.)

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I am not sure if this is necessarily a deal-breaker. A man who hides his kids would be a dealbreaker, not the opposite! He is being a real man and proudly owning his responsibilities. I can't explain for the guys who send creepy explicit requests, but you women should know you are not all perfect either.

I am on OKC now some 3 months (as vheeghee if interested), and I am equally annoyed at how many women post pics with the following:

1. You and your pets all over each other suggesting that any new guy will not stand a chance.
2. You with all of your girlfriends in one picture (and sometimes your girlfriends look much better)
3. You on all your vacations/hobbies and never anything about your normal weekly life.

and last but not least,

4. You in a very dated photo where you were in shape and fit........but the last photo always tells the true story

For these reasons I pretty much rewrote my whole profile, and made it specific the kind of friendship I am hoping to establish. Since then all the 'likes' reduced significantly, or if I got likes, the woman stops talking after reading my profile. So this confirms my view that most women on OKC are lonely, desperate, and superficial.

So if OP is annoyed by men just sending pics of their kids (which is a very grown man thing to do), then we as men are equally turned off by all those things in your pictures.