Anonymous wrote:Just my most recent one, not by any means the worst - they're planning to visit. Only the second time in 2 years (they are driving distance, but overnight stays are necessary).

"I'm bringing chicken and potatoes and cereal with me"
"Um, why?"
"You never have any food in the house"

REALLY?? Your first visit i went out of my way to make really nice meals that accommodated whatever fad diet you were on at the time. The second visit I had a 2 WEEK OLD - I told you there was pasta in the pantry and handed you a folder of take out menus. Don't judge my ability to keep a functional and fed household based on when I had a 2 week old and preschooler. I actually cook real meals far more often than most people I know.

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

I thought you were talking about your mother. Nevermind.

I'm not sure what that has to do with my mother-in-law....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

Lol, that's awful! When we told my MIL we were getting engaged, at a dinner in a restaurant, she literally cried while mumbling to herself "My life is over." She wore white to our wedding, and tried to find out exactly where our honeymoon was so she could come. We were gone for ten days. She called 28 times.

Anonymous wrote:I have SO many, but the standout one really is when DH and I told MIL that we had gotten engaged.

We had broken up earlier that year mostly because DH was avoiding dealing with a lot of emotional trauma and it resulted in him shutting down any time we would have even the slightest conflict. The trauma was mostly from childhood - sexual abuse that he never felt safe telling his parents about, the death of a sibling that was handled very badly by his parents, their divorce - nothing actually directly related to our relationship. Anyway, after a few months of him being in therapy, we got back together and got engaged.

He called her and had me on speakerphone but we never actually told her I was on speakerphone (not an intentional oversight)...we were just at hello and she said, "What's new?" and he said, "____ and I got engaged!" and she GASPED and said, "OHMYGOD, have you talked to your therapist about that?!?!!?!?" (as if it was a horrible thing....)

we have never really recovered from that moment.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.

I'm not sure what that has to do with my mother-in-law....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine is somewhat more complicated because:
1. I was a teenage mother to two kids
2. We lived in her house

She would constantly overrule me to my own kids. I'd say they couldn't do something and she'd say they could. She genuinely thought I had no parent-cred because I was a teenager and that since she'd been a mother longer than I had, she knew better than I did. So things like this happened multiple times a day:
5:30 pm
Me: No, you've watched enough tv, go play
MIL: Why are you sitting in the hallway playing cars?
Son: Because Mama said I can't watch tv
MIL: Of COURSE you can! Do you want some ice cream to eat while you watch?

I couldn't move out fast enough.

Just the fact that you had two children when you were a teenager would suggest that your mother wasn't a good mother.