Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 07:34     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:evite went out 4 weeks ago.

TWO reminders for rsvps went out.

today, a parent rsvp'd yes.

i sent the family an email apologizing that we just don't have space; i said, honestly, that when people did not reply to my rsvp request, that i invited other children from the neighborhood and the party space has a limit, which we are at. i offered a playdate in the future.

how are people so clueless.

i am deleting the last two non-responders - i can't have them rsvp tonight or tomorrow and just assume they can come.

Yes. Remember that you can be right and you are since you should respond but also wrong as saying no could provide unpleasant interractions for you and your child. I would find a way to include this child.

am i crazy?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 07:29     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.


Me neither. And they DID RSVP before the party. OP, you suck.


It's not about responding before the party, it's about responding before the RSVP date. Are you also one of these people who simply cannot manage to take one minute out of your day to respond to an Evite on time? And then chide the host both for having a party at a place with a max head count, and for not accommodating your rude behavior?


I respond the day I get it. Nice try. It isn't a wedding. Get over yourself. I'd have space for everyone who hadn't RSVP'ed no.


"Nice try"? Good lord. Do you understand that this particular situation is about someone ignoring the Evite, and two reminders, until the day before the party? Being polite towards your host is not solely reserved for weddings.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 07:21     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.


Me neither. And they DID RSVP before the party. OP, you suck.


It's not about responding before the party, it's about responding before the RSVP date. Are you also one of these people who simply cannot manage to take one minute out of your day to respond to an Evite on time? And then chide the host both for having a party at a place with a max head count, and for not accommodating your rude behavior?


I respond the day I get it. Nice try. It isn't a wedding. Get over yourself. I'd have space for everyone who hadn't RSVP'ed no.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 07:10     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.


Me neither. And they DID RSVP before the party. OP, you suck.


It's not about responding before the party, it's about responding before the RSVP date. Are you also one of these people who simply cannot manage to take one minute out of your day to respond to an Evite on time? And then chide the host both for having a party at a place with a max head count, and for not accommodating your rude behavior?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 07:02     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:I'm glad I read this thread and am making a mental note to never throw one of my kid's parties at a place that had a max head count, because I would never turn away another child from a birthday celebration.


Me neither. And they DID RSVP before the party. OP, you suck.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 06:42     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.


If you are too busy to respond you are too busy to go. Ergo op is correct to assume a non responder should not be planning to show up.
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 03:43     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
I agree it is rude to RSVP that late.

Parties take planning and people need to understand that the world does not revolve around them.

Anonymous
Post 11/01/2014 01:30     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, I would never fill up a space of a non-responder. I'd send them reminders and direct e-mails, but never assume they were not coming. I'd rather error on the side of having too few kids.

Yes, its rude of the family, but sometimes evites do not go through. And there have been times I thought I RSVPed by iphone, but it didn't actually go through.


This. When you evite, expect technical difficulties and/or the fact that an evite might go to the spam folder. I do not see my spam folder on my iPad - only on my laptop, which I rarely use.

I used evite several years ago for my son's birthday. Only THREE people RSVPed. My son is well-liked, so I figured it had something to do with the evite.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:37     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Sorry OP, I would never fill up a space of a non-responder. I'd send them reminders and direct e-mails, but never assume they were not coming. I'd rather error on the side of having too few kids.

Yes, its rude of the family, but sometimes evites do not go through. And there have been times I thought I RSVPed by iphone, but it didn't actually go through.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:30     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.

This person is obviously one of the rude, late responders. I'm in your side, OP. I don't know how people aren't mortified to RSVP so late.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:25     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
It's fine.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:15     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Anonymous wrote:You overreacted. People are busy. This is a child's birthday party not a wedding! FFS.
Busy, to take 2 seconds out of a 24 hour day. 2 seconds, to type, "Im coming'. People like you shouldn't be invited at all. New poster here.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:11     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Even if there is a hard cap, if there are several nonresponders i would keep 1 or 2 spaces open for late responses or an unexpected sibling.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 22:07     Subject: irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
Did your invite say RSVP by -this date-? If not, you're borderline as rude as the late rsvp'ers.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2014 21:59     Subject: Re:irritated - rsvp 24 hours in advance of the birthday
If space is a constraint, give a hard deadline in the invitation by which to respond, then delete non-responders if this is an issue. That way they can't respond at the last minute.