Umm you are dense. If they did muffins with my mom and dad event it would be an issue.

Anonymous wrote:My dad died when I was 6 and these type of events always broke my heart - even if I did take my grandfather, uncle, or mom.

Me too. Father Daughter dance were the worst. I always went with a friend & her father or my grandfather but it was not the same. I would have preferred to skip and pretend these events didn't exist.

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, not every event will work for every kid. We cant do away with Fathers Day and Mother's Day bc some people dont have one, any more than we should do away with Christmas or Easter bc some people dont celebrate (and I am one who doesnt celebrate).

Children, even young ones, have to learn to deal with their lot in life and where the other parent or caregiver or teacher can help the child feel more comfortable, they should but we cant deprive others of opportunities just to protect the ones who might feel left out.

+1 Absolutely true.

A proper invitation to these events says something like "We don't want anyone to be left out, so others can accompany the child, such as other relatives, family friends, etc."

Our school does "biannual class tea party"
It's a huge event (for the kids) where they get to practice manners, setting the table, serving, hosting, making conversation, cleaning up and sending guests away. Kids are welcome to invite anybody they feel is important in their lives.
We see grandparents every other year and last week in our first tea party this year DD cried real tears because she wished grandma and grandpa could come.
Well, I felt bad for us and consoled her but I'd never ever consider ruining grandparent/grand kids events because of our particular situation.
It's plain stupid.

I'm a single parent. I'm okay with these events. There is always some kid whose parent can't be there for one reason or another. As a child, my dad never attended because he was at the hospital (shift worker). It was okay.

Anonymous wrote:You bleeding heart types know kill me. Isn't it tiresome to be so worried about every little thing every minute of every day?

Shorter PP: this doesn't bother me, so it's not a problem.

Anonymous wrote:Some kids don't have a mom. Therefore, NO child should get to have a special school event with his or her mom.

That is nuts.

Some women cant have children, therefore, you should never tell people you are expecting.
Also, make sure not to walk around paraplegics.
And I am never going to play the piano or be a rock star, so all radio should cease to exist.

This event is run by the PTA. Instead of complaining about what its called here on DCUM where we can do nothing about it, join the PTA, go to a meeting and express your concerns. Better yet, offer to chair the event and propose to change the name to something you think would be more appropriate.

Some kids don't have a mom. Therefore, NO child should get to have a special school event with his or her mom.

That is nuts.

You bleeding heart types know kill me. Isn't it tiresome to be so worried about every little thing every minute of every day?

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, not every event will work for every kid. We cant do away with Fathers Day and Mother's Day bc some people dont have one, any more than we should do away with Christmas or Easter bc some people dont celebrate (and I am one who doesnt celebrate).

Children, even young ones, have to learn to deal with their lot in life and where the other parent or caregiver or teacher can help the child feel more comfortable, they should but we cant deprive others of opportunities just to protect the ones who might feel left out.

I think you misunderstand. OP is trying to make these events more inclusive. More inclusive is the opposite of "depriving others of opportunities".

Why does the focus have to be on the parent? Why can't it be about...the student and his/her learning??? At our school we have Poetry Cafe where kids can invite whomever they want to share their poems. The teacher has some cookies and punch. And we have an art show. And there's a science fair. In third grade, the kids do a wax museum where they dress us as a famous person. My point is that school is about learning. Keep it on that, not parents of one gender and overly sugared bakery products.

I understand the sentiment behind the OP but what would you propose instead? I'm sure that a child can bring anyone to a dad/mom/grandparent day...I've seen aunts/uncles at grandparents day, etc.

I think it's very insensitive to those children without a mom or dad.