My 6th grade 11.5 yr old DD just on Friday had her first sleepover at the house of a kid I don't know well. I met the mom a couple of times, I've met the kid many more times (she goes home alone and I pick DD up so we wait for and ride the bus to the girl's stop together). My rule for allowing DD to have instagram is that she has to let me follow her, and now I follow a few of her friends and they follow me.

I confirmed there were no guns in the house and who would be there. The mom returned DD exactly on time, and DD reported doing all the things I thought she'd be doing and told me which movies she watched and what she ate, and I'm pleased with how it went.

If I'd gotten any sort of creepy vibe I'd have said no. OP, in your case, I'd say no. You said yes to a playdate at a specific house with a specific adult in charge. Now they're changing locations AND adults? No.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. Would not allow this. We have friends who got divorced and our child may visit their child when at one parent's house, but not the other.

What is the reason you give that friend for your child not being allowed to go to the one parent's house?

Just say that you don't feel comfortable with it. If your friend doesn't get why a person would have some reservations about this, she is pretty clueless.