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Anonymous wrote:My youngest is in 5th grades. His teachers have already made it clear that they don't want to hear from us unless it is about an absence or other issue that the child cannot handle alone. Why would anyone think a college wants to hear from parents? Cut the cord.

I'd be wary of your child's school

+1 As an elementary school counselor (at home with sick kid). I'm in a W feeder school in MCPS (have been for several years) and have never heard of a fifth grade teacher saying that.

My kids teachers never stated that explicitly, but 10 years old is plenty old enough to be taking responsibility for themselves. My 11 year old emails his teachers if he forgets something or has a question. I honestly don't speak to the teachers outside of conferences because I don't have a need to. I think the tween years are typically when parents switch from handling everything to overseeing everything. It doesn't seem that strange to me, especially in this age of the tendency toward helicopter parenting.

This is a thread about juniors/seniors in high school, not 5th graders.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest is in 5th grades. His teachers have already made it clear that they don't want to hear from us unless it is about an absence or other issue that the child cannot handle alone. Why would anyone think a college wants to hear from parents? Cut the cord.

I'd be wary of your child's school

+1 As an elementary school counselor (at home with sick kid). I'm in a W feeder school in MCPS (have been for several years) and have never heard of a fifth grade teacher saying that.

My kids teachers never stated that explicitly, but 10 years old is plenty old enough to be taking responsibility for themselves. My 11 year old emails his teachers if he forgets something or has a question. I honestly don't speak to the teachers outside of conferences because I don't have a need to. I think the tween years are typically when parents switch from handling everything to overseeing everything. It doesn't seem that strange to me, especially in this age of the tendency toward helicopter parenting.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My youngest is in 5th grades. His teachers have already made it clear that they don't want to hear from us unless it is about an absence or other issue that the child cannot handle alone. Why would anyone think a college wants to hear from parents? Cut the cord.

I'd be wary of your child's school

+1 As an elementary school counselor (at home with sick kid). I'm in a W feeder school in MCPS (have been for several years) and have never heard of a fifth grade teacher saying that.

Anonymous wrote:My youngest is in 5th grades. His teachers have already made it clear that they don't want to hear from us unless it is about an absence or other issue that the child cannot handle alone. Why would anyone think a college wants to hear from parents? Cut the cord.

I'd be wary of your child's school

My youngest is in 5th grades. His teachers have already made it clear that they don't want to hear from us unless it is about an absence or other issue that the child cannot handle alone. Why would anyone think a college wants to hear from parents? Cut the cord.

Well, against my better judgement, I went to visit the rep WITH my daughter. It's for a smaller school in the South, top 75 US News or so. Hope that doesn't hurt her chances?

No, do not go. What school is it?

Wow. so many helicopter parents here.

The other side of the coin is if your child is a recruited student. My DS was a D1 football recruit and the schools wanted DH and me present for every little thing. From first contact to letter signing day we were there.

DD went the more "traditional" route to college. For a meet and greet at Starbucks, I would attend if I wanted to. A meet and greet at the kids school - no, that makes you seem a bit overbearing.

The bottom line is all the posters wringing their hands over jeopardizing your kids chances if you show up at the Starbucks drop in are over the top. Remove the top 20-25 schools from the list and you will find most are not that big of a reach for your average DCUM kid. If it's the top 20 school at the drop in, go if you want - it's not that big of a deal.