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It would depend a lot on our finances at the moment.

And the value of our current rings.

As an act of goodwill on your husband's part, it would be nice of him to trade your ring or sell it, then get you another one so you won't have to be reminded of any lingering pain.

Again, if the current one is of considerable value or if your finances are not very good right now, then something like that can wait. Unless it is a huge priority for YOU right now.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need a new ring. The diamond should be a minimum
of 50% larger than the first ring.

hi gold digger - where you been?

Hi. I'm a dude. I've been at work.

Anonymous wrote:Op, if looking at the ring reminds you of the betrayal, and your DH is on board, and finances are not a concern - go for it. Or reset the stone or whatever feels right. There are no guidelines for this.

THIS. Whatever you two want to do/will make you feel best is what you should do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.

Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.

Heh. I didn't have a glass of Chardonnay when I posted that but I do have one now. If it were me, the original ring would remind me of getting married, and a new ring would remind me of the infidelity. But as PP said, do what you both agree to because there are no rules.

+1

I would keep the old ring and focus on your relationship working. The old ring is about getting you back to where you were and the vows you made.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.

Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.

Heh. I didn't have a glass of Chardonnay when I posted that but I do have one now. If it were me, the original ring would remind me of getting married, and a new ring would remind me of the infidelity. But as PP said, do what you both agree to because there are no rules.

Op, if looking at the ring reminds you of the betrayal, and your DH is on board, and finances are not a concern - go for it. Or reset the stone or whatever feels right. There are no guidelines for this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.

Put down your glasses of chardonnay.

A ring is a symbol of marriage and fidelity. A new ring represents a new beginning. It's not a trinket.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.

+1

Anonymous wrote:How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

OP thinks she deserves a new trinket for forgiving him for the affair. I can't say that I blame her, honestly. But it's something that they should probably talk about in counseling.

OP are you the one whose husband got invited to a wedding and you didn't?

OP is probably the type of woman who likes the idea of a push gift.

How about you buy him a new ring, if you want to start over, rather than expecting him to buy you a new trinket?

How about having the old ring refashioned into a new ring by an artisan?
Or you can have it made into an A for adulterer pin or tie tack?

Anonymous wrote:You need a new ring. The diamond should be a minimum
of 50% larger than the first ring.

hi gold digger - where you been?