Anonymous
Post 10/12/2014 08:59     Subject: Re:Affair question
What caused her to check out?
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2014 06:55     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


What's your relationship with your wife? I would think children would be better off with their parents apart if they don't get along and there is no love and affection being shown.
Just curious.


In my case.. There is love and affection towards the kids but not towards the DH from the DW. My relationship with my OW is VERY unique.


You keep justifying your behavior by calling your situation unique. Can you please send your wife this way so we can help her find a really good divorce attorney so she can finally have the life she deserves.


She has been getting more out of our marriage than I have... She checked out of our marriage many years ago... And she still gets the financial benefits of being married to me. If it was not for the kids... I would have found a really good divorce attorney so I could get the life that I deserve.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:49     Subject: Affair question
I do everything with my AP cause he is my best friend.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:48     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


What's your relationship with your wife? I would think children would be better off with their parents apart if they don't get along and there is no love and affection being shown.
Just curious.


In my case.. There is love and affection towards the kids but not towards the DH from the DW. My relationship with my OW is VERY unique.


You keep justifying your behavior by calling your situation unique. Can you please send your wife this way so we can help her find a really good divorce attorney so she can finally have the life she deserves.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:47     Subject: Affair question
RHinVA wrote:I disagree. I think if I found out my spouse was grocery shopping with a woman alarm bells would be going off. The weekly food shopping is usually done alone or with your s/o.


If my man and another woman were shopping for their respective families, it would be easy to dismiss as two buddies who ran into one another in the store.

One shared cart for themselves, on the other hand, would be another story.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:42     Subject: Affair question
RHinVA wrote:I disagree. I think if I found out my spouse was grocery shopping with a woman alarm bells would be going off. The weekly food shopping is usually done alone or with your s/o.


You're just a bit awkwardly off topic.

They're having an affair. Her question is whether or not the shopping thing is 'normal' under the circumstances.

Of course anything a hubby does with another woman would set off alarms. That's not the point here.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:34     Subject: Re:Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't find it shocking.after all, they're out shopping for their own families-not buying the food they're going to take back to his house, cook and eat.

They're doing normal stuff nothing that means very much in the long run (esp to a man).

No different than chatting with an AP at the water cooler at work. It looks innocuous and in no way suggests a deepening of feeling.


We are actually buying groceries for our respective families... We have moved way beyond water cooler talk.



I know....you're buying groceries for YOUR respective families-not building up to an intimate dinner together in one of your homes. That's not terribly intimate. It's a chore-and more awkward than intimate.

Running an errand together like shopping for your respective families is the equivalent of the water cooler:quite innocent.

Shopping for a romantic meal together is more intimate and va-va-voomy.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 22:30     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


What's your relationship with your wife? I would think children would be better off with their parents apart if they don't get along and there is no love and affection being shown.
Just curious.


In my case.. There is love and affection towards the kids but not towards the DH from the DW. My relationship with my OW is VERY unique.


Curious. How did you meet the ow?
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 21:08     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


What's your relationship with your wife? I would think children would be better off with their parents apart if they don't get along and there is no love and affection being shown.
Just curious.


In my case.. There is love and affection towards the kids but not towards the DH from the DW. My relationship with my OW is VERY unique.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 21:03     Subject: Re:Affair question
Anonymous wrote:I don't find it shocking.after all, they're out shopping for their own families-not buying the food they're going to take back to his house, cook and eat.

They're doing normal stuff nothing that means very much in the long run (esp to a man).

No different than chatting with an AP at the water cooler at work. It looks innocuous and in no way suggests a deepening of feeling.


We are actually buying groceries for our respective families... We have moved way beyond water cooler talk.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 15:18     Subject: Re:Affair question
I don't find it shocking.after all, they're out shopping for their own families-not buying the food they're going to take back to his house, cook and eat.

They're doing normal stuff nothing that means very much in the long run (esp to a man).

No different than chatting with an AP at the water cooler at work. It looks innocuous and in no way suggests a deepening of feeling.
Anonymous
Post 10/11/2014 15:03     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


What's your relationship with your wife? I would think children would be better off with their parents apart if they don't get along and there is no love and affection being shown.
Just curious.
Anonymous
Post 10/10/2014 19:56     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.


Hi OP's friend's affair partner.
Anonymous
Post 10/09/2014 07:03     Subject: Affair question
Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.


I go grocery shopping with my AP and do lots of other things. We have become each others best friend and we discuss everything together. I think that she has become the closest friend that I have ever had. Our connection with each other is what I had wished for in my marriage with my DW.

I will not go into too much detail, but we do lots of things together. We see each other almost every day. We are both married and have kids. If our kids were older and out of school... We would divorce and marry each other.. So it is more than an affair... It is a relationship.
Anonymous
Post 10/08/2014 21:26     Subject: Affair question
I would guess they are just good friends.