Anonymous
Post 10/04/2014 17:03     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing, OP. On this site, people will always tell you it's ok to drink so long as it's not to excess. If you did drink before you knew you were pregnant, your doctor will reassure you. But, the real question is whether you can live with yourself if you end up having a child with special needs after you decided to drink. If your child is diagnosed with, say, ADHD or is in the less than tenth percentile for height and/or weight or has some other characteristic that is associated with fetal alcohol syndrome, how will you feel? And, the problem with all of this is that you won't know at birth or even in elementary school whether you are out of the woods because often issues associated with drinking during pregnancy don't show up until late elementary school or beyond.


The science doesn't back you up on any of this. The dose response for problems caused by alcohol use during pregnancy start at 10 drinks a week. One drink at a wedding isn't going to matter.

Anonymous
Post 10/04/2014 16:59     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Anonymous wrote:20:41 - how do you know about the third week after conception?


Google "tetragens" and "fetal development."

http://www.chw.org/medical-care/genetics-and-genomics-program/medical-genetics/teratogens/
Anonymous
Post 10/04/2014 16:56     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Watch a couple episodes of I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant and it will make you feel better about a couple of drinks preimplantation.

I drank until a pink line with all of mine and they are tall and intellectually gifted.
Anonymous
Post 10/03/2014 20:27     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing, OP. On this site, people will always tell you it's ok to drink so long as it's not to excess. If you did drink before you knew you were pregnant, your doctor will reassure you. But, the real question is whether you can live with yourself if you end up having a child with special needs after you decided to drink. If your child is diagnosed with, say, ADHD or is in the less than tenth percentile for height and/or weight or has some other characteristic that is associated with fetal alcohol syndrome, how will you feel? And, the problem with all of this is that you won't know at birth or even in elementary school whether you are out of the woods because often issues associated with drinking during pregnancy don't show up until late elementary school or beyond.


She's more likely to die driving to the wedding than cause harm to her unborn child from a few drinks at a wedding.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2014 22:54     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Here's the thing, OP. On this site, people will always tell you it's ok to drink so long as it's not to excess. If you did drink before you knew you were pregnant, your doctor will reassure you. But, the real question is whether you can live with yourself if you end up having a child with special needs after you decided to drink. If your child is diagnosed with, say, ADHD or is in the less than tenth percentile for height and/or weight or has some other characteristic that is associated with fetal alcohol syndrome, how will you feel? And, the problem with all of this is that you won't know at birth or even in elementary school whether you are out of the woods because often issues associated with drinking during pregnancy don't show up until late elementary school or beyond.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2014 22:18     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
I think it's more about cell differentiation than sharing blood stream. Differentiation into organs does not start happening that early. I have two healthy kids and drank both times during the two week wait. For my first, I was away on vaca and drank a beer or two (or three) every single night.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2014 14:48     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
You are fine. I did not know I was pregnant with DC (I have highly irregular periods and we weren't actively trying) and had a bunch of drinks at a getaway weekend, which later turned out to be the weekend I likely conceived. When I told that to my OBGYN in a panic, she told me that this early there was nothing to worry about - first 2-3 weeks you are fine.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 19:38     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?


OP, you realize it could take you a year to get pregnant?

It was only when I relaxed and stopped avoiding everything that I did get pregnant after 2 years of trying.

(Also, you should watch Mad Men. Women drank like fish in the 60s, and smoked as well, with only rare affects on children.)
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 19:36     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
And before OP asks, yes you can also eat sushi if it is served at the wedding. Please have some common sense and relax.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 19:32     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Not OP, but in this case can you also drink coffee if the bloodstream is not shared?
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 08:43     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Relax, have some fun. In moderation, of course! A couple glasses of bubbly, not black-out drunk.

Until about 7 weeks, the baby is living off the corpus luteum, which was the follicle the egg came from. The placenta is a long way from forming.

Here's some helpful information. http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/placenta
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 08:07     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Oh my gosh OP you're going to look back one day and laugh. Either because it actually took you 6 more months to get pregnant and you wasted a fun wedding for nothing - or you do get pregnant and realize that was a drop in the bucket compared to the numerous complexities of pregnancies and parenting. Drink and enjoy yourself.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 08:02     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Drink! If you ovulated that late, it is exceedingly unlikely that you would implant by day 27. For your overall health I would recommend no more than 2 drinks. But it is perfectly fine to have a little.

Drinking and pregnancy are positively correlated. It is a very robust statistical finding dating back to the invention of alcohol. I am a high school guidance counselor so I know all about drinking and pregnancy.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 07:48     Subject: upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Anonymous wrote:You can drink. You are not sharing anything with the baby that early.

+1. Id just limit it to two.
Anonymous
Post 10/01/2014 07:26     Subject: Re:upcoming wedding - to drink or not to drink?
Anonymous wrote:Can you just not drink at a wedding. Would it kill you to stay sober. You are trying to have a baby. Just give up the booze.


That's no fun and why limit yourself unnecessarily? She could not eat also.