Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:57     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Man. Being a MIL is rough.


Agreed. I hope I don't end up with one of these ingrate bitches when my son gets married one day. It will truly crush my soul to know that my son has chosen to live his life with someone so small and awful.


This. How very sad very everyone. How can these women profess to love their spouse when they have so much contempt for ghe women who raised him? It isn't loving to be so awful to someone your spouse has loved for a lifetime. It isn't a competition. He loves you differently than her. And you shouldn't place your spouse in this position. I never dreaded the future until I found Dcum and learned how truly hateful some women could be.


i disagree with the OP, but in all fairness, some dh's turn out to be wonderful people in SPITE OF, not because of their mothers...
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:56     Subject: Re:"my babies"
normal to find it irritating, but pick your battles and don't voice this one outloud
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:55     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Man. Being a MIL is rough.


Agreed. I hope I don't end up with one of these ingrate bitches when my son gets married one day. It will truly crush my soul to know that my son has chosen to live his life with someone so small and awful.


OP here. I just posted and yes, I know this is DCUM... but really? I'm saying in general, "I get it's not a biggie but it annoys me, am I alone?" and the implied response is that I am soul-crushing, small and awful, and an ingrate bitch? Now who is blowing things out of proportion?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:50     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:Totally normal to find it irritating.

Do you have a good relationship with her otherwise? I think it's more irritating when it's just one more thing you find irritating.


OP here. This.
And I'm not a troll, but I do live in a different time zone and was feeling lazy about doing work and thus was procrastinating on DCUM.
I realized the other day it annoys me at some level and then I was curious if that was normal.
Yes, I realize in the scheme of life it's nothing, like I said.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:45     Subject: Re:"my babies"
My Mom and my sisters (who are single) do this. It doesn't bother me.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:41     Subject: "my babies"
My SIL says this all the time about my DSs. But that's because she is VERY non-maternal and never had kids. Now her friends have kids and grand-kids and she's subconsciously a little awkward about it. She makes lots of forced, faux maternal references to our DSs, to try to fit in when around them.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:24     Subject: "my babies"
I probably wouldn't like it, but I'd know it comes from a good place and get over it.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 11:23     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think it is dumb to be offended by this. Be glad your children have loving grandparents and find a real problem to be upset about.


agree


Agree.

They are her babies. Her grandbabies. Is she from the south? I don't find this weird at all.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 10:15     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:My MIl does it too and it irritates me though I just shrug it off. Now that daughter is 3 and obsessed with defining relationships (we have daily conversations along the lines of "I'm your daughter, you're my mother, you're my daddy, Larlo is my brother, etc) she corrects her.

The bigger problem is that my MiL will tell my daughter that she is going to keep her when we go home and it freaks my daughter out. Yet she somehow "forgets" inbetween visits and says it again the next time.


My dad says the same to my son, just to see him freak out. My son figured this out by the time he turned three, so now it's become a game. Kids are more resilient than we give them credit for, sometimes.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 10:10     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:I think it is dumb to be offended by this. Be glad your children have loving grandparents and find a real problem to be upset about.


+1.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 10:09     Subject: "my babies"
Am I the only mom who is not bothered by this?

Now don't get me wrong my relationship is not all that rosy and in fact I don't particularly care for her but when she says this it doesn't bother me one bit.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 09:56     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Man. Being a MIL is rough.


Agreed. I hope I don't end up with one of these ingrate bitches when my son gets married one day. It will truly crush my soul to know that my son has chosen to live his life with someone so small and awful.


This. How very sad very everyone. How can these women profess to love their spouse when they have so much contempt for ghe women who raised him? It isn't loving to be so awful to someone your spouse has loved for a lifetime. It isn't a competition. He loves you differently than her. And you shouldn't place your spouse in this position. I never dreaded the future until I found Dcum and learned how truly hateful some women could be.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 09:29     Subject: "my babies"
Small and awful sounds about right.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 09:07     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:It annoyed me too, until a coworker of mine who is a grandma herself told me that her DIL snapped at her for saying my babies. My coworkers face was so sad and said "I'm not an idiot, I know I didn't give birth to my grandson, but I just love him so much!" And after that it never bothered me again when my mil or mom said it.



This is a great perspective.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2014 09:04     Subject: "my babies"
Anonymous wrote:Man. Being a MIL is rough.


Agreed. I hope I don't end up with one of these ingrate bitches when my son gets married one day. It will truly crush my soul to know that my son has chosen to live his life with someone so small and awful.