Anonymous
Post 09/21/2014 19:02     Subject: Re:What do you cry about?
Nope. Never really been a crier.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:55     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:I cry over anything children + suffering whether war, illness (st Jude's hospital or ebola or the like), abuse, neglect, starvation, and the list goes on.

I think once you become a mom, you feel like every kid is a "little bit" yours.


completely agree.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:36     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:Today I cried when I heard my friend had a 24 weeker.


I hope they have a good support system. Many good thoughts for the baby and family.

Disclaimer - I had an early preemie and I tear up whenever I hear about other people starting down that road.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:36     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:Do you cry about other people's pain or your own pain and trials? Or do you never cry at all? I find I never cry about my own life (which, by all comparative accounts, is not that good). But I never cry over it. I find myself crying about other people's problems/pain. Like the children in Gaza or Syria... or just now, I was watching the Roosevelt documentary and I found myself crying about all the hell that WWII entailed for millions of people. It felt good to cry. But I'm not in touch with my own pain. Maybe I use other people's pain as a cipher for my own.

What about you?


When children die.

When I see my DS truggling with his learning disabilities.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:33     Subject: Re:What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:I cried reading Charlotte's Web last night. Kid may not realize she died yet because my crying was so distracting!


you're not alone. I was a snotty mess....
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:33     Subject: What do you cry about?
I'm trying to remember the last time I cried. I don't do it often but I would say when I do it's not out of sadness but frustration. Like something is going on that I dislike more wish I could change and I can't do anything about it. That sort of powerlessness sometimes drives me to tears simply out of lack of any sort of agency.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:04     Subject: What do you cry about?
I cry over my weight. I hate being fat but nothing I do seems to help. Work my butt off and still stay the same weight. It is a cry of frustration more than anything.

I also cry over sad stories involving children losing parents or parents losing children.

Sometime I cry when I look at my kids because I love them so much and I am so proud of them. They are growing up too fast. I last cried when my oldest started Kindergarten 3 weeks ago.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 08:03     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:I cry over anything children + suffering whether war, illness (st Jude's hospital or ebola or the like), abuse, neglect, starvation, and the list goes on.

I think once you become a mom, you feel like every kid is a "little bit" yours.


+ 100. This is me
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:59     Subject: What do you cry about?
I cry over anything children + suffering whether war, illness (st Jude's hospital or ebola or the like), abuse, neglect, starvation, and the list goes on.

I think once you become a mom, you feel like every kid is a "little bit" yours.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:56     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:Do you cry about other people's pain or your own pain and trials? Or do you never cry at all? I find I never cry about my own life (which, by all comparative accounts, is not that good). But I never cry over it. I find myself crying about other people's problems/pain. Like the children in Gaza or Syria... or just now, I was watching the Roosevelt documentary and I found myself crying about all the hell that WWII entailed for millions of people. It felt good to cry. [b]But I'm not in touch with my own pain. Maybe I use other people's pain as a cipher for my own.[/b]

What about you?



In my experience many people do this. It feels too overwhelming sometimes to cry for oneself. At lot of us instictively fear we'll fall apart emotionally if we "go there", so we defensively distance from our own pain and displace the emotions onto other people's suffering. It's well known that a lot of people in the "helping professions" (e.g., nurses, doctors, social workers, psychiatrists) do this.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:53     Subject: Re:What do you cry about?
I'm one week postpartum so I'm crying about everything. Right now I think about the world going on after I die and I am sad about how much I'll miss. Also, about how old I'll be when my kids are grown even though that's nuts because I didn't meet my husband until later in life and we weren't ready to have kids early on.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:50     Subject: What do you cry about?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I used to just cry when a dude broke my heart. Now that I'm a mother I cry at every single fucking thing in life.


+1. Happy or sad. I am so easily moved to tears by everyday human kindness and cruelty.


This is me also, but I've had to learn to control my tears, though. I'm a therapist and it would be bad if I cried every time a client talks about something sad in their life.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:44     Subject: What do you cry about?
I cry when I think about the reality of abortion. The little hands and feet.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:41     Subject: What do you cry about?
I cry when things don't go my way. Childish, I know.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2014 07:12     Subject: What do you cry about?
I cry for other people's suffering both near and far. It really gets me.

I also cried a lot in frustration and pain at my dysfunctional family, but have moved on.