My first husband was pretty low drive, and simply couldn't physically manage it more than once every other day, even in his 20s. I'm high drive. Took care of my needs myself most of the time. He was a great guy, but I needed more of a spark, as it turned out, and we turned into roommates after a while, until we split up.

Uh, OK, he's put on some extra weight. What about you OP?

We should form a support group. We rarely have sex. Been this way for years. I have to initiate or beg for sex if I want it. I am over begging and talking about it. It is soul killing.

I think it's important to recall that OPs DH never turns her down. They are, in fact, having sex fairly regularly. The issue is not his sex drive, it's that she wants him to "chase" her. That's different from most of the stories here where men constantly rejected by their wives.

Anonymous wrote:I hear that doing chores is supposed to increase the low drive spouse's libido. Also too, date night.

Lol. Yeah, this is the advice that men always get when they complain about a low drive wife. OP you should romance him and do chores and enchant him and seduce him. OR, you should think about what you have done to alienate his poor feelings.

Anonymous wrote:Add me to the "me too!" list. Been like that for many years.

Just have kind of made my peace with it.

(And a big LOL at the PP about doing more chores and and date nights!)

Agree with making peace. I've stopped putting out all together.

Wish my husband wanted it less.

Cheating helps!

Add me to the "me too!" list. Been like that for many years.

Just have kind of made my peace with it.

(And a big LOL at the PP about doing more chores and and date nights!)

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Anonymous wrote:I simply cannot fathom such a man!

Are your husbands overweight or do they not exercise? Excess body fat causes low T. Low T send your sex drive into a nose dive.

My DH was like that in his early 30s. It's not that rare.

Pp, did it ever get better?

When my DH was training for a marathon, there was little sex drive. For one of the PPs who said her DH was very athletic, it could just be he's overtraining.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH has been like this since we met at 21.

We're very happy though because our compromise is that the weekly sex is super hot and awesome. I can occupy myself the other times I want it more often.

OP here. We are also very happy overall and I'm making it work. I just read soooo many posts on here about how the wife is the one who never wants to have sex, which is not the case at my house! Nice to know I'm not alone.

I think what you hear is TYPICALLY men are high women low. When a man is low, probably most times a woman does not complain because it suits her low drive as well. People take to the internet when the balance is off to vent because it is indeed very very stressful for the high drive person not to get their needs met.

High drive men around the internet are looking at these high drive women with low drive men and crying in their beers that they are not better sexually matched with their partner. Kind of like a waste of a good sex drive.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH has been like this since we met at 21.

We're very happy though because our compromise is that the weekly sex is super hot and awesome. I can occupy myself the other times I want it more often.

OP here. We are also very happy overall and I'm making it work. I just read soooo many posts on here about how the wife is the one who never wants to have sex, which is not the case at my house! Nice to know I'm not alone.

I'm in a similar situation.

I hear that doing chores is supposed to increase the low drive spouse's libido. Also too, date night.

Anonymous wrote:My DH has been like this since we met at 21.

We're very happy though because our compromise is that the weekly sex is super hot and awesome. I can occupy myself the other times I want it more often.

OP here. We are also very happy overall and I'm making it work. I just read soooo many posts on here about how the wife is the one who never wants to have sex, which is not the case at my house! Nice to know I'm not alone.