I am in a similar situation. Both sets of grandparents live in the same city. No direct flights. H also wants to go visit his grandma in a different city (not for thanksgiving, he wants to spend our summer vacation there).
We have no place to stay there- means spending on a hotel.
I don't care much for my parents; his are nice people, but will ask for gifts,and are not nice enough to spend all that money and stress with the flights.
Grandma's house is messy and old, no joy staying with her.
I would much rather have a beach vacation.
H will prob never get around booking the tickets, but if he does, and goes with DS only, I am not sure I will be happy with that. DS will be 5 yo.

Is dh ok with you staying home?

Anonymous wrote:I'm sitting here looking at flights for Thanksgiving and starting to feel anxious and upset about the prospect of spending nearly a week with my critical, passive aggressive, emotionally manipulative MIL. Sigh. Is there any way I could send my older kid and DH and stay home with the baby?

"Is there any way?" Of course. "The baby and I will be staying home this year. Have a great holiday!" Comments/ complaints? "Have a fun Thanksgiving!"

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel if DH refused to go visits your manipulative mother? It's his mom, for Pete's sake. You married him. Is it fair to him for you to act this way? Some times life isn't all about us. We suck it up and do thing for the one's we love.

My parents aren't toxic but DH does get annoyed by my mom and if he didn't want to visit with her, I don't think I'd really care except that it's a cross country flight and it would be hard for me to manage the kids alone. As it is, DH stays at least part of the time in a hotel alone while the kids and I stay with my mom. That said, I don't totally disagree with your point, which is why I'm sitting here pricing out flights!

It's Not awk for dh to stay in a hotel alone?