Terrible advice. Sneaking around a school without a visitors pass is considered to be trespassing in Virginia and spying on the teacher like this is considered to be creepy everywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:My K son told me today that a certain child hit him in the throat and that he tried to tell the teacher but she didn't hear him bc "all the kids in my class are always yelling." I'm obviously concerned about the incident but also a little worried that this first year teacher doesn't have control of her class. What would you do? Thanks!

I'd drop by school A LOT in the next couple of weeks. Always unannounced, always trying to peep in for a few minutes before teacher sees you. I don't care how creepy it sounds, I have done this at 2 schools and it's the only way for me to really get a pulse on whats happening in classroom and how to approach teacher, Principal or someone else.

Terrible advice. Sneaking around a school without a visitors pass is considered to be trespassing in Virginia and spying on the teacher like this is considered to be creepy everywhere.

What did you do, op? My 3 year old DC came home Friday saying something similar about a specific kid in her class, so I was actually searching this forum for hitting related advice. My thought was to let it go but if DC brought it up again, email about it to the teacher to see if that helps get the full story.

I usually wait for one more incident, then when I contact the teacher, I feel like I have a bit more grounds for voicing concern. It really could have been a random, one-time thing.

Other thing you should be checking on with your kid--start to ask the names of the kids. If your kid gets "hit" by two totally different kids over the course of the month, that could easily just be rough and tumble of kid play. If your kid is talking about one specific kid that keeps hitting him, then you can let the teacher know, not in an "outraged parent" kind of way, but a "here's a negative interaction that seems to be developing between two students. I'm giving you a heads up, and trusting you to come up with solutions for proactively preventing it." This gives the teacher to show professional coping skills. If after THAT there is still a problem, you are rock solid in your right to make a more formal complaint.

I would e-mail a teacher. Don't start the e-mail with the whole "how dare you not monitor the children, poor baby got hurt." Calmly explain the incident.

I don't think it's appropriate to hit each other, even in K. And I am a mom of an SN child. If my kid pushed someone or hit someone, I would want to be all over the situation, and work together with the teacher on fixing his behavior.

Yes, I'd e-mail the teacher and ask if he/she knew anything about it. I wouldn't wait because if she finds it needs to be investigated, time is not on your side because kids forget this sort of thing. I wouldn't ask for a meeting because you don't need to take up that much of the teacher's time over this. If this happens again or your child has problems with other kids, then you might need a meeting. One thing to remember is that when you ask, you might find out information about your child that you'd rather not know, so be ready for that possibility as well. Also, if the incident occurred on the playground, you might need to ask the principal as well if teachers don't monitor the playground.

I wouldn't write days later. The time to do it has passed. Next time, write for sure.

Yes, I'd e-mail the teacher and ask if he/she knew anything about it. I wouldn't wait because if she finds it needs to be investigated, time is not on your side because kids forget this sort of thing. I wouldn't ask for a meeting because you don't need to take up that much of the teacher's time over this. If this happens again or your child has problems with other kids, then you might need a meeting. One thing to remember is that when you ask, you might find out information about your child that you'd rather not know, so be ready for that possibility as well. Also, if the incident occurred on the playground, you might need to ask the principal as well if teachers don't monitor the playground.

OP, if it happens again, I would certainly email the teacher. Also, talk to your kid about how to approach the teacher. If the teacher were busy, and your child was not clear, that could explain the issue. signed teacher.

Yes you do sound creepy and I am would love to know the school that allows you to creep around and watch teachers. Most schools you have to sign in and be there for a specific reason.

Couldn't do this at our FCPS school.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K son told me today that a certain child hit him in the throat and that he tried to tell the teacher but she didn't hear him bc "all the kids in my class are always yelling." I'm obviously concerned about the incident but also a little worried that this first year teacher doesn't have control of her class. What would you do? Thanks!

I'd drop by school A LOT in the next couple of weeks. Always unannounced, always trying to peep in for a few minutes before teacher sees you. I don't care how creepy it sounds, I have done this at 2 schools and it's the only way for me to really get a pulse on whats happening in classroom and how to approach teacher, Principal or someone else.

Yes you do sound creepy and I am would love to know the school that allows you to creep around and watch teachers. Most schools you have to sign in and be there for a specific reason.

What school has kids always yelling?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My K son told me today that a certain child hit him in the throat and that he tried to tell the teacher but she didn't hear him bc "all the kids in my class are always yelling." I'm obviously concerned about the incident but also a little worried that this first year teacher doesn't have control of her class. What would you do? Thanks!

I'd drop by school A LOT in the next couple of weeks. Always unannounced, always trying to peep in for a few minutes before teacher sees you. I don't care how creepy it sounds, I have done this at 2 schools and it's the only way for me to really get a pulse on whats happening in classroom and how to approach teacher, Principal or someone else.

Because the class is always at its best when random strangers are distracting and interrupting them! Just ask if you can put in a webcam.

Not to mention "always yelling" could be an exaggerated description of a loud, crowded classroom by a kid whose used to a quiet home.

Kids think everything is done on purpose. He may describe being hit in the throat when what happened was an inadvertent act, like stretching.

Why email OP? This seems like a face to face conversation with the teacher. Are you afraid to raise it?