Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid does have issues, just not issues that a person can expect a school system to solve. The ignorance posted here is so astonishing that I guess I am in the wrong spot for advice. Yes, there are parents out there who get off on having their kid stamped with the gifted label, and they do all families with gifted children a disservice by fueling that ridiculous shaming that the parents of gifted children get. I don't even know if I am one of them, but the fact that you can't even use the word "gifted" without people attacking you just shows how misunderstood it is.

So long as people think that giftedness is just about being smart, and that as long as the kid is getting good grades there is no problem, this population of children will continue to suffer the consequences. They typically display a constellation of emotional and behavioral issues that can turn very negative if not understood and supported appropriately. They are special needs and should be treated as such. It's BS that people think that good grades are all there is to a whole, healthy child.

Not one person could list a private person or company to go to for an evaluation. None of you answered the actual question; you just used the opportunity to post your irrelevant opinions. Moving on to a more informed and less hostile list serve, thanks for nothing.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid does have issues, just not issues that a person can expect a school system to solve. The ignorance posted here is so astonishing that I guess I am in the wrong spot for advice. Yes, there are parents out there who get off on having their kid stamped with the gifted label, and they do all families with gifted children a disservice by fueling that ridiculous shaming that the parents of gifted children get. I don't even know if I am one of them, but the fact that you can't even use the word "gifted" without people attacking you just shows how misunderstood it is.

So long as people think that giftedness is just about being smart, and that as long as the kid is getting good grades there is no problem, this population of children will continue to suffer the consequences. They typically display a constellation of emotional and behavioral issues that can turn very negative if not understood and supported appropriately. They are special needs and should be treated as such. It's BS that people think that good grades are all there is to a whole, healthy child.

Not one person could list a private person or company to go to for an evaluation. None of you answered the actual question; you just used the opportunity to post your irrelevant opinions. Moving on to a more informed and less hostile list serve, thanks for nothing.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid does have issues, just not issues that a person can expect a school system to solve. The ignorance posted here is so astonishing that I guess I am in the wrong spot for advice. Yes, there are parents out there who get off on having their kid stamped with the gifted label, and they do all families with gifted children a disservice by fueling that ridiculous shaming that the parents of gifted children get. I don't even know if I am one of them, but the fact that you can't even use the word "gifted" without people attacking you just shows how misunderstood it is.

So long as people think that giftedness is just about being smart, and that as long as the kid is getting good grades there is no problem, this population of children will continue to suffer the consequences. They typically display a constellation of emotional and behavioral issues that can turn very negative if not understood and supported appropriately. They are special needs and should be treated as such. It's BS that people think that good grades are all there is to a whole, healthy child.

Not one person could list a private person or company to go to for an evaluation. None of you answered the actual question; you just used the opportunity to post your irrelevant opinions. Moving on to a more informed and less hostile list serve, thanks for nothing.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid does have issues, just not issues that a person can expect a school system to solve. The ignorance posted here is so astonishing that I guess I am in the wrong spot for advice. Yes, there are parents out there who get off on having their kid stamped with the gifted label, and they do all families with gifted children a disservice by fueling that ridiculous shaming that the parents of gifted children get. I don't even know if I am one of them, but the fact that you can't even use the word "gifted" without people attacking you just shows how misunderstood it is.

So long as people think that giftedness is just about being smart, and that as long as the kid is getting good grades there is no problem, this population of children will continue to suffer the consequences. They typically display a constellation of emotional and behavioral issues that can turn very negative if not understood and supported appropriately. They are special needs and should be treated as such. It's BS that people think that good grades are all there is to a whole, healthy child.

Not one person could list a private person or company to go to for an evaluation. None of you answered the actual question; you just used the opportunity to post your irrelevant opinions. Moving on to a more informed and less hostile list serve, thanks for nothing.

Anonymous wrote:I am also puzzled because OP says a "diagnosis" might better support her kid's social emotional needs. But a WISC won't provide a diagnosis or tell you anything about how to support her social emotional needs.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see how a number, especially something as imperfect as an IQ number, is going to tell you anything about raising your child. If it were a question of schooling it would be one thing, but you say the school is meeting her needs. In terms of meeting a child's emotional needs, the number has nothing to do with it. Kids have a variety of emotional needs and you take them as they come.

I'm sorry, it sounds like you are looking for bragging rights. Your posting on a board for those of us with children who do have needs that are difficult to meet. Some of us have kids that are gifted (I do) but thats not why we're here. We're here because they also have anxiety/ADHD/an ASD/a physical disability/a behavior problem/a medical problem. The list goes on.

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I don't understand why you are on this board. Does your child have a disability? Being "gifted" is not a disability and will not qualify you for a 504 or IEP. This is a board for parents of kids with Special Needs and asking about a child who is simply "gifted" and without a disability is very insensitive.

OP, please ignore PP. People on this SPECIAL NEEDS (not disability!) forum are generally very helpful.

PP, I suggest you read about the issues that come along with giftedness. OP is right to get on this. I ignored it for years and my DC ended up with anxiety/school refusal and a host of other physical/emotional issues which I suspect were largely due to the fact that DC's needs were not being met in the home school. DC is now at a local independent (not one that specializes in giftedness) and is very happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see how a number, especially something as imperfect as an IQ number, is going to tell you anything about raising your child. If it were a question of schooling it would be one thing, but you say the school is meeting her needs. In terms of meeting a child's emotional needs, the number has nothing to do with it. Kids have a variety of emotional needs and you take them as they come.

I'm sorry, it sounds like you are looking for bragging rights. Your posting on a board for those of us with children who do have needs that are difficult to meet. Some of us have kids that are gifted (I do) but thats not why we're here. We're here because they also have anxiety/ADHD/an ASD/a physical disability/a behavior problem/a medical problem. The list goes on.

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I don't understand why you are on this board. Does your child have a disability? Being "gifted" is not a disability and will not qualify you for a 504 or IEP. This is a board for parents of kids with Special Needs and asking about a child who is simply "gifted" and without a disability is very insensitive.

OP, please ignore PP. People on this SPECIAL NEEDS (not disability!) forum are generally very helpful.

PP, I suggest you read about the issues that come along with giftedness. OP is right to get on this. I ignored it for years and my DC ended up with anxiety/school refusal and a host of other physical/emotional issues which I suspect were largely due to the fact that DC's needs were not being met in the home school. DC is now at a local independent (not one that specializes in giftedness) and is very happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see how a number, especially something as imperfect as an IQ number, is going to tell you anything about raising your child. If it were a question of schooling it would be one thing, but you say the school is meeting her needs. In terms of meeting a child's emotional needs, the number has nothing to do with it. Kids have a variety of emotional needs and you take them as they come.

I'm sorry, it sounds like you are looking for bragging rights. Your posting on a board for those of us with children who do have needs that are difficult to meet. Some of us have kids that are gifted (I do) but thats not why we're here. We're here because they also have anxiety/ADHD/an ASD/a physical disability/a behavior problem/a medical problem. The list goes on.

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I don't understand why you are on this board. Does your child have a disability? Being "gifted" is not a disability and will not qualify you for a 504 or IEP. This is a board for parents of kids with Special Needs and asking about a child who is simply "gifted" and without a disability is very insensitive.

Anonymous wrote:I am also puzzled because OP says a "diagnosis" might better support her kid's social emotional needs. But a WISC won't provide a diagnosis or tell you anything about how to support her social emotional needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Where do you go to get a neuropsych exam done?

The school has been useless. When I talked to the gifted resources counselor, she was not allowed to refer me to a private evaluator, and the only thing they could do for me is put her through the county process of being evaluated to receive gifted services in the school system, which isn't exactly what I'm after.

You may feel that the school is being "useless," but school is a highly bureaucratized process. You need to know the magic words to use. Are you only concerned that your DC is not being challenged enough and you want him/her placed in a higher class or given access to more challenging materials? Then the "county process of being evaluated to receive gifted services in the school system" is all there is to offer you.

Are you concerned that your DC is gifted but has some other issue (like ADD, learning disability, speech/language issue, health issue, emotional or anxiety issues, etc.) that is preventing your DC from accessing the curriculum, demonstrating their skills fully or benefitting from the curriculum or is demonstrating a level of achievement that is significantly below what you suspect is your DC's ability? Then you want to ask for an IEP (if you think "specialized instruction" is necessary to remedy the situation) or a 504 plan (if you think that no specialized instruction is necessary but that your child needs some "accommodations").

If you think either a 504 or IEP is necessary, my advice is to write a letter and ask for an IEP. In your letter you will have to say that you suspect three things (1) disability, 2) adverse educational impact and 3) need for specialized instruction. Children do not have to be receiving "failing grades" or be "behind grade level" to receive an IEP. You just have to show that the disability is having an adverse educational impact and that special instruction is needed.

Why do I suggest an IEP? Because the IEP process offers greater legal protections as to timeline and obligation to evaluate, and who participates. In most school systems if the school refuses to grant an IEP, then a 504 can be considered in the alternative at the same meeting. However, if a 504 meeting is first held and the school (or parent) thinks an IEP is necessary, then the school might have to schedule a new meeting (which they can take another 30 days to do) because IEPs require the participation of certain school personnel on the IEP team.