I could use a gym membership, but I hesitate for various reasons. If my husband went with me, even just for the first few times, I would actually be very grateful.

OP, I think getting all the info together, class schedules of things she might like (yoga, Zumba, whatever), and a proposal for kid coverage so she can go -- that's all good enough. Then get her approval before buying the membership.

Be sure to purchase child care assuming the gym has a kids club. Might help motivate her if she knows she's getting a break from the kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What strange responses. I wouldn't mind a gym membership from my husband at all! He wouldn't mind one from me either. Right now we bike a little and lift weights at home, but it's not full service like a gym. Everyone needs to work out for health reasons, even the visually slim people, so why get all bothered?

But... tread carefully OP, if your wife is at all like the PPs above!

It sounds like his wife isn't already working out. If she was already working out, he could frame it as an upgrade.

your DH knows you are interested in fitness, so a gym membership is agood idea.

OP thinks his wife needs to get interested in fitness, which is far more critical.

I am overweight and would love a treadmill, but I am really into fitness, work out 5-6 times a week, run, etc.

Anonymous wrote:What is the worse that happens? She decides that you think she needs to get into better shape, and that your are an insensitive clod...and that you are going to leave her for the hot secretary...and....

If your couch is comfortable, that is good...you will be sleeping on it.

A FIBIT is the same as gym membership, BTW.

BTDT

Agree it's a bad idea...but in what universe is a fitbit the same as a gym membership? I have (and love) both.

My DH told me I was fat and so was he. He said that we needed to get in shape because we were looking like fat hillbillies. He was right and I appreciated his honesty.

We have collectively lost 90lbs and fuck like rabbits.

She'll end up sleeping with her personal trainer:
http://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1033599/falling-in-love-with-your-personal-trainer

Did she ask for a gym membership? If not, you're an ahole.

Passive aggressive. Why not use the money on therapy for you and possibly for the two of you?

Wife here. I wouldn't just say it cold. If she brings up her weight/health say, " why don't I get u a gym membership and we can work out together." I can't imagine it will go down well unless she brings it up.

Anonymous wrote:she's sensitive and very self conscious about it but for the sake of her own good and our family i firmly believe it's time she works out and be healthy.

i think the worst is she just doesn't go so a waste of money.

thoughts, ladies?

It's amazing how many jerky assumptions OP made in just three little lines.

I think it's a great idea, but I'm thin and I already work out regularly. Maybe you just drew a lot of responses from women who no longer care.

I'm a husband and this is exactly the sort of thing that would get me killed. The only situation this would work for me is if she handed me a check made out to the club, a signed application, a notarized affidavit and waited in the car while I went into the club to buy the membership.

We do our exercise (walking, biking and swimming) together.

The telling part of your post is:
"she's sensitive and very self conscious about it"
What is "it"?

What is the worse that happens? She decides that you think she needs to get into better shape, and that your are an insensitive clod...and that you are going to leave her for the hot secretary...and....

If your couch is comfortable, that is good...you will be sleeping on it.

A FIBIT is the same as gym membership, BTW.

BTDT

I told my extremely money conscious husband that I felt fat the other day and he immediately he suggested a gym membership. So, sadly, I guess he has noticed and agreed that I am indeed getting chunky. I signed up that day. Too bad I can't get him to...

Anonymous wrote:
What strange responses. I wouldn't mind a gym membership from my husband at all! He wouldn't mind one from me either. Right now we bike a little and lift weights at home, but it's not full service like a gym. Everyone needs to work out for health reasons, even the visually slim people, so why get all bothered?

But... tread carefully OP, if your wife is at all like the PPs above!

It sounds like his wife isn't already working out. If she was already working out, he could frame it as an upgrade.