Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:32     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
OP, if the teacher is aware, I am sure she will do what she can. She cannot make the other children "accept" your child. Only your child can do that. Don't make her the victim. Help her know how to handle the situation.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:29     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - I don't know if you are still reading this, but the "mean girl" attitude starts early. You have to teach your DD to stand up for herself. I know it's hard. I have a 6 yr old DD. If this happened to her, I would be saddened, too. The teacher is aware, so hopefully the teacher can have a discussion with all the kids about social inclusion. I know of a 2nd grade teacher that had to talk to all the girls in the class about social bullying. This is all part of the socialization that kids have to learn in K.

Teach your DD to speak up. ESs usually has a mantra about how to handle conflict. Use that. Role play with your DD. You be the "mean girl". I've spoken to my DD about how to speak up for herself. Say, "you are hurting my feelings.".. "that's not nice." I don't know if that works, but it does teach your child to speak up for herself and be less intimidated.

Good luck.


Of course this doesn't work. The mean girls knows full well she is not being nice and is hurting the other child's feelings. That's why she's doing it, to state the obvious.


PP here.. I know that some times saying these things don't stop the bullying. Speaking up is more about standing up for yourself rather than trying to stop the other person. You will never be able to change the other person. You can only teach your child how to handle it.


How about "You're not very nice"?

Seriously, I tell my kids to tell anyone who is mean to them, going through their back pack or whatever that if they don't cut it out, they're going to tell their mom. I know this may backfire but my kids know I mean business and that I have their backs, and I think that gives them the confidence they need to avoid being picked on in the first place, if that makes sense. Standing up for each other is important. I know that goes against the culture around here but it's important to me.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:24     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What school and greatschools rating. I am curious if there is a correlation between bullies/bad behavior and rating.


Yeah. The "good schools" are full of brats.



Either way I am interested in researching whether high test scores and/or SES produces more or less bullying.


My kids' school is made up mostly of low-income families. Bullying is not a problem and the children are generally well-behaved. Anybody can be a bully regardless of SES.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:24     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP - I don't know if you are still reading this, but the "mean girl" attitude starts early. You have to teach your DD to stand up for herself. I know it's hard. I have a 6 yr old DD. If this happened to her, I would be saddened, too. The teacher is aware, so hopefully the teacher can have a discussion with all the kids about social inclusion. I know of a 2nd grade teacher that had to talk to all the girls in the class about social bullying. This is all part of the socialization that kids have to learn in K.

Teach your DD to speak up. ESs usually has a mantra about how to handle conflict. Use that. Role play with your DD. You be the "mean girl". I've spoken to my DD about how to speak up for herself. Say, "you are hurting my feelings.".. "that's not nice." I don't know if that works, but it does teach your child to speak up for herself and be less intimidated.

Good luck.


Of course this doesn't work. The mean girls knows full well she is not being nice and is hurting the other child's feelings. That's why she's doing it, to state the obvious.


PP here.. I know that some times saying these things don't stop the bullying. Speaking up is more about standing up for yourself rather than trying to stop the other person. You will never be able to change the other person. You can only teach your child how to handle it.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:23     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What school and greatschools rating. I am curious if there is a correlation between bullies/bad behavior and rating.


Yeah. The "good schools" are full of brats.



Either way I am interested in researching whether high test scores and/or SES produces more or less bullying.


I don't think it goes together. I know of a high SES, high performing school where bulling is a problem. The neighboring lower SES school has bullying, too.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:22     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
OP doesn't have a backbone either. She bailed on her own post because a few people said some things she didn't agree with. How can teach her daughter to stand strong when she clearly doesn't have the skill herself?
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:20     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What school and greatschools rating. I am curious if there is a correlation between bullies/bad behavior and rating.


Yeah. The "good schools" are full of brats.



Either way I am interested in researching whether high test scores and/or SES produces more or less bullying.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:16     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:What school and greatschools rating. I am curious if there is a correlation between bullies/bad behavior and rating.


Yeah. The "good schools" are full of brats.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:16     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
What school and greatschools rating. I am curious if there is a correlation between bullies/bad behavior and rating.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:14     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:OP - I don't know if you are still reading this, but the "mean girl" attitude starts early. You have to teach your DD to stand up for herself. I know it's hard. I have a 6 yr old DD. If this happened to her, I would be saddened, too. The teacher is aware, so hopefully the teacher can have a discussion with all the kids about social inclusion. I know of a 2nd grade teacher that had to talk to all the girls in the class about social bullying. This is all part of the socialization that kids have to learn in K.

Teach your DD to speak up. ESs usually has a mantra about how to handle conflict. Use that. Role play with your DD. You be the "mean girl". I've spoken to my DD about how to speak up for herself. Say, "you are hurting my feelings.".. "that's not nice." I don't know if that works, but it does teach your child to speak up for herself and be less intimidated.

Good luck.


Of course this doesn't work. The mean girls knows full well she is not being nice and is hurting the other child's feelings. That's why she's doing it, to state the obvious.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:11     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.


9:50 am-- OP posts.
10:00 am -- OP flounces off.

OP's pace of life is very fast.


Obviously, since it is the 4th day of school today and she has already observed bullying, been approached by the teacher, had a meeting about it, contacted the other child's parents, etc.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:11     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Teach your kid to defend herself. Very important skill.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:10     Subject: My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Teach your daughter to stand up for herself.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:10     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
OP - I don't know if you are still reading this, but the "mean girl" attitude starts early. You have to teach your DD to stand up for herself. I know it's hard. I have a 6 yr old DD. If this happened to her, I would be saddened, too. The teacher is aware, so hopefully the teacher can have a discussion with all the kids about social inclusion. I know of a 2nd grade teacher that had to talk to all the girls in the class about social bullying. This is all part of the socialization that kids have to learn in K.

Teach your DD to speak up. ESs usually has a mantra about how to handle conflict. Use that. Role play with your DD. You be the "mean girl". I've spoken to my DD about how to speak up for herself. Say, "you are hurting my feelings.".. "that's not nice." I don't know if that works, but it does teach your child to speak up for herself and be less intimidated.

Good luck.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2014 10:09     Subject: Re:My Daughter is Being bullied in KINDERGARTEN!
Anonymous wrote:WOW. OP here. This board did not disappoint from what I have seen in the past. Thanks for the one constructive comment. The rest of you, your children must be gems. SO MUCH HATE. I won't be back here so you any further comments are to the cyber universe. Hope I don't know any of you in real life.


9:50 am-- OP posts.
10:00 am -- OP flounces off.

OP's pace of life is very fast.