Anonymous
08/27/2014 02:31
Subject: Does your husband get annoyed or angry when you buy things for the house?
Another DH here. I get annoyed with what I see as constant acquisition of more crap. We started with an under decorated house when we moved from a small apartment, and DW started buying stuff. But then when we reached fully decorated, she kept buying stuff. Now we talk about her wanting a bigger house and she is still regularly bringing more stuff home. How many throw pillows can one house hold?!?
Like OP, she shops wisely and buys tasteful stuff on sale, so it's not so much a complaint about the money. It's more just that I don't understand or appreciate what seems to be an obsession with buying more stuff that we clearly don't need. I think she just likes the act of shopping and acquiring new stuff. It's not the stuff she craves, but the act of shopping for it. I suppose I do it too, but just on different things, and a lot less often. Maybe the trick is to shop at some place like Value Village, and make home decor shopping a one-for-one exchange -- for every new throw pillow we bring into the house, we need to exit one from the house.
Like OP, she shops wisely and buys tasteful stuff on sale, so it's not so much a complaint about the money. It's more just that I don't understand or appreciate what seems to be an obsession with buying more stuff that we clearly don't need. I think she just likes the act of shopping and acquiring new stuff. It's not the stuff she craves, but the act of shopping for it. I suppose I do it too, but just on different things, and a lot less often. Maybe the trick is to shop at some place like Value Village, and make home decor shopping a one-for-one exchange -- for every new throw pillow we bring into the house, we need to exit one from the house.
Anonymous
08/27/2014 01:13
Subject: Re:Does your husband get annoyed or angry when you buy things for the house?
I am the spender in our relationship. DH is a saver, rarely buys anything himself and rarely throws anything out. He keeps socks with holes in them and white t-shirts with yellow, crusty stains in the armpits. For household stuff, I buy everything and we have a budget and if I want something, I just plan accordingly. If it's a larger one-off item, we just discuss it first.
Anonymous
08/27/2014 00:33
Subject: Does your husband get annoyed or angry when you buy things for the house?
Mine used to. He wanted to save saved save and at times I did ... In the form of bargains. So I disregarded him. It caused tension in the beginning. Finally I realized every bargain wasn't essential, and he realized that I make our house a home and that decor added value, increases his quality of life. Every time someone compliments our home, he says it's all me, and is very proud now. Wasn't always that way. My advice is to cone to an agreement on how much spending a month/ year is ok from the budget, stick to it to avoid tension. What good is a pretty home at the cost of an angry spouse.
Anonymous
08/26/2014 23:41
Subject: Does your husband get annoyed or angry when you buy things for the house?
my husband rightfully gets annoyed because I cannot stop buying $200 goosedown pillows. I love them, I feel that we might run out irrationally.