Anonymous wrote:I am not body shaming. Body shaming is expecting my daughter to be a size 6 or 8, when her bone structure and build will always run larger. And I didn't mention her weight to her---her physican did at her annual physical---with a great deal of alarm, actually. There is a difference between "body shaming" and worrying that your child is headed in the direction of gross obesity and the attendant blood pressure, stroke and diabetic risks that come with that amount of extra weight.
But she makes extraordinarily poor food choices---let's knock back a full size Chipotle bowl followed on by a grande caramel macchiato from Starbucks. And no exercise---just tap, tap, tap on that phone.
I have considered restricting that phone, but don't do it precisely because I don't want to make her weight such a battleground between us, and because I went to college with enough anorexics and bulimics that I am worried about doing anything that could swing the pendulum in the opposite direction. But that doesn't mean that I'm not going to point out that my DD (and her friends, many of whom are also trending towards obesity just as she is) are not making healthy choices.
Yeah, you're fat shaming. You remind me of my mother 20 years ago, and here I sit in my really fat 35 year old body, feeling really sad after reading your posts and realizing these messages hurt me instead of helping me at all. Please rethink your attitude.