Ask him how you can both support each other in both of your goals? So if he says I need your support by leaving me alone. Then so be it. If you say I need your support in not saying anything about my working out then he should respect that. If he keeps up the BS that working out isn't good for you then tell him he shouldn't worry about it since he's not doing any anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:You're not admitting it but you are saddling him with the 5 year old every time you do this. Is he working FT? What kind of work schedule does he have? What kind of work schedule and commute do you have? If I had tried to do all you are doing during early childhood years, there is no way my husband could have coped because by then he was dressed and enroute to a very stressfull full time job. Can you work out together at home? workout tapes? lift weights at home. Pilates tapes?

She already said she goes at 5:30 am so she's done before they wake up.

Maybe they can take turns- so he can also get exercise during the week.

Where do you get the idea that he wants to exercise? Sounds like he's perfectly content being out of shape and unhealthy. Fighting for exercise time is not the issue here.

I think many spouses get jealous and insecure when the other spouse get themselves in shape while the other one is left behind, unable to make a change.

OP, keep doing what you're doing. Don't make it a topic of conversation about you, or about him.

OP, sounds like he is jealous/you make him feel insecure about his inability to make health a priority.

I have no advice for you. DH and I lost 80lbs between the two of us a few years back. WE both work FT and due to teamwork, get in 6 days a week of an hour each of exercise. I cannot imagine having a spouse that was not supportive of me bettering myself.

Sorry, your husband sucks and will probably have a litany of health issues and you will be saddled taking care of him because you took care of yourself.