Anonymous wrote:This is normal. I'm a happily marrried woman with kids. Good sex life and very happy with DH. But we've been together for 10 years and our life is pretty mundane. I work with mostly men and I can't help noticing the cute ones sometimes. Afterall, I'm only human! I have little crushes and they're usually married too. Back when I was single I would have sought out their company. Now I try to avoid thhe guys who I have little crushes on. In fact, the guy I have a minor crush from afar on right asked me to have a work related coffee next week and I haven't followed up. I feel like I need to do this out of respect for my DH and kids not to mention their wives and kids.

I do have a couple of male work friends who I have lunch with but I don't find them at all attractive.

Sometimes this marriage thing is hard.

sure, minor or fleeting crushes are harmless. But it's only hard if you're not 100% in love with and committed to your spouse. so you might want to think about that PP

Two red flags here. One: You work together and Two: He is already taken.

If you get involved w/this guy, you could not only ruin a marriage + family, but you could also put your job and possibly your professional reputation at stake.

I understand your attraction to this man. It's completely normal and it probably gives you something extra to look forward to at work.

But for your own well~being, I suggest you do not go looking for trouble.....

This is normal. I'm a happily marrried woman with kids. Good sex life and very happy with DH. But we've been together for 10 years and our life is pretty mundane. I work with mostly men and I can't help noticing the cute ones sometimes. Afterall, I'm only human! I have little crushes and they're usually married too. Back when I was single I would have sought out their company. Now I try to avoid thhe guys who I have little crushes on. In fact, the guy I have a minor crush from afar on right asked me to have a work related coffee next week and I haven't followed up. I feel like I need to do this out of respect for my DH and kids not to mention their wives and kids.

I do have a couple of male work friends who I have lunch with but I don't find them at all attractive.

Sometimes this marriage thing is hard.

It's all in my head (OP here). I just find him very very very physically attractive and sweet and smart. For some awful reason I am fantasizing. I am married too (no kids). I just find myself wondering if he is a good kisser and what it would be like if I got drunk and met him in a bar...

Have been the other woman. It is an awful place to go. You have no idea what can happen. It took 6 years out of my life. We were together off/ on for five and it has taken about another year to get over it. Don't do it.

Anonymous wrote:I never in a million years would do anything but it sucks because I see him at work and think he is lovely. I sound like I'm 13 too but holy shit... how do I squash these stupid feelings?

Is he flirting with you? Do feelings seem reciprocal?