Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't interested in her regardless, then why are you so bothered by this?

As I said, I am a single father. I have just started dating again. Part of this is trying to determine what the standard is these days. Haven't dated anyone new since the early 2000s. Just like anyone, I am trying to be reasonable and balanced.

Why bother being reasonable and balanced? You're not into her; move on -- unless you *are* secretly into her.

Regarding the standard: I think that's up to you. What are you comfortable with. I'm a married woman, but if I was single and not into someone, I wouldn't both with someone who had a ton of weird online baggage -- and who I wasn't into.

So dump her. It's probably a vindictive ex, but if you're a single father you shouldn't take the chance.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if a bitter ex is lying about her?

If someone is bitter, it means the other person acted badly to make them bitter. So if the ex is bitter, likely Op's date was pretty awful at home.

Not necessarily.

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't into it anyway, I would end it. Especially since you are a single father. Ain't no one got time for that!

All these people saying that you should give her a chance would NEVER give a man a chance if the reverse were the situation.

Now if you felt there was a real connection, and these were the only things concerning you, I would give it more time. But since you indicated that you weren't super into her, just let it go.

THIS, a thousand times THIS. especially because you have a kid too - not worth the risk and as you said yourself you're not that into her.

end it, but may want to consider doing it politely but firmly so as to minimize the chance she starts stalking you

OP, if you like this woman and are concerned about what's written about her on the internet, ask her about it. If you are lukewarm about the woman, stop going on dates with her. I can't tell if you're asking for validation to continue seeing her or validation to discontinue seeing her.

Anonymous wrote:What if a bitter ex is lying about her?

If someone is bitter, it means the other person acted badly to make them bitter. So if the ex is bitter, likely Op's date was pretty awful at home.

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't interested in her regardless, then why are you so bothered by this?

As I said, I am a single father. I have just started dating again. Part of this is trying to determine what the standard is these days. Haven't dated anyone new since the early 2000s. Just like anyone, I am trying to be reasonable and balanced.

I have never heard of this website, what is the url?

If you aren't interested in her regardless, then why are you so bothered by this?

What if a bitter ex is lying about her?

Anonymous wrote:

All these people saying that you should give her a chance would NEVER give a man a chance if the reverse were the situation.

+1000

And to say give him a chance to a SINGLE mom, yeah right. Bitches be dreamin!

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ok, interesting replies. Seems like most people are in favor of me continuing along with this woman. I wonder if it would be different if I was a woman who was posting about a man?

Is the standard of security lower for men? I really am pretty turned off...

Now you have gone and done it..you are going to get called a Men's Rights Activist and a scumbag. No one cares about the men...don't you get it? It is women that matter, only women. You know a woman could never do wrong, so obviously she was set up by an angry man if there is something written that might put her in a bad light. And if she did cheat, a man made her do it. He didn't do enough dishes so what other choice did she have? You should feel badly for her that he made her cheat.

If you aren't into it anyway, I would end it. Especially since you are a single father. Ain't no one got time for that!

All these people saying that you should give her a chance would NEVER give a man a chance if the reverse were the situation.

Now if you felt there was a real connection, and these were the only things concerning you, I would give it more time. But since you indicated that you weren't super into her, just let it go.

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ok, interesting replies. Seems like most people are in favor of me continuing along with this woman. I wonder if it would be different if I was a woman who was posting about a man?

Is the standard of security lower for men? I really am pretty turned off...

You have absolutely zero obligation to this woman, and are free to stop seeing her for any reason, even that the weather was cloudy and you ate fish last Tuesday. If you're not enthusiastic about her anymore, then stop seeing her. Something is setting off your radar, if these accusations seemed completely out of character for her, you'd probably be able to brush them off more easily.

She could be a soulmate. You don't know unless you give it time.