Anonymous wrote:So wait...the kids you have 50% of the time are his from the prev marriage? Please tell me these marathon fishing expeditions are not occurring on his weekend with them.

That's correct. He still fishes when the kids are with us but not for quite as long (maybe 3 to 4 hours or so at a time) and he takes the kids with him.

*the kids

So wait...he kids you have 50% of the time are his from the prev marriage? Please tell me these marathon fishing expeditions are not occurring on his weekend with them.

OP here.

DH has not agreed to scaling back the fishing but has agreed to hiring a cleaning service and have the groceries delivered. In discussing this with DH, I realized that my chief complaint is that I'm doing housework while he's pursuing a hobby. Obviously, a cleaning service and grocery delivery won't handle all of the household chores but I think there will be less for me to do and less resentment.

I do agree with the PP who said that DH is checking out. I specifically asked him about this and he claimed that he just really enjoys fishing. I don't think anyone could really enjoy fishing that much, so maybe this is just a passing phase. Also, DH has had some significant health issues recently so maybe this is his way of escaping that.

To the PPs who suggested that I talk to my husband: thank you for stating the obvious. Perhaps I should have been more specific in my original post, but talking to my husband about this was always my plan. I was simply looking for some additional perspective.

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess--you're in your mid-late 20's and thought DH was the bee's knees. You probably also thought his ex-wife was the world's craziest bitch. And now you see what everyone else sees: you married a selfish jerk.

You sound bitter. I'm the OP. I'm 34 and don't think his ex is the world's craziest bitch, though I'm not entirely sure how any of that is relevant. I still think DH is the bee's knees; I just don't get his sudden passion for fishing. I do agree that he is being selfish at the moment.

Fishing season is almost over, so maybe he's trying to get a few last outings in before that.

OP, I could have typed your post almost word for word, except my DH is obsessed with fishing and hunting.

All you can do is talk to him about it, but of course, it may do no good. It didn't really with my DH. At least he does bring home a lot of fish, deer and turkey for us to eat instead of buying meat at the store. (I'm trying to see the positive and focus less on the negative)

Let me guess--you're in your mid-late 20's and thought DH was the bee's knees. You probably also thought his ex-wife was the world's craziest bitch. And now you see what everyone else sees: you married a selfish jerk.

Put something in his tacklebox, either a nude picture, some panties, etc., and see if he notices.

Get him one of these..its a mind-reading helmet....it help with stuff like this

Continue to suffer in silence....

He is cheating....

Reframe your title: "DH's selfishness, abdication of responsibility, and disrespect for my time are driving me crazy"

OP, you HAVE seen some fish right???

Anonymous wrote:People fish at night. But since there is a recent uptick in his fishing I'm wondering if he is having an affair or maybe gambling or ??

Hmmm. Could be visiting a casino.

I fish, and his schedule seems too much to me. A few hours and I'm ready to move on and do something else, and I like fishing.

This is odd. The only think I'll add is that maybe he is the type that dives into new things and then gets bored. I have a boy like that. After a while, his interest may subside to a more reasonable level.