MarriedManHunting wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:maybe you should stop picking losers?

Maybe- but I've also had relationships without cheating. It's not pathological- it comes back to my point that *most* (if you want to exempt yourself or your partner from this category, fine) people are capable of infidelity. Some don't even need to be unhappy in their current relationship to cheat.

how do you know? you don't seem very astute, having fallen for the same shit twice.

Maybe there are a lot of people out ther falling for this shit and don't know it? The first time I was shattered and didn't reflect- it was when it happened again that I saw the pattern.

It says more about the character of people that you chose to have relationships with (pattern - stop picking losers). You are the common denominator.

EXCUSE me little ms ignorant the pattern isn't picking losers. the pattern in all probablity is the wife being TOO DAMN selfish as a Lover.

I think people rationalize dishonesty- maybe they cheat and lie because they imagine they are the victim or they are entitled to something. Integrity is about who we are when times are tough.

Anonymous wrote:When they start saying "we are only friends. Why are you so jealous?" Red flag. Deflecting any suspicious question you have back to you. Red flag. Won't let go of that damn cell phone or BB- red flag. If you have a guy feeling they are cheating, most likely they are

All red flags for sure. I think that fact that he/she has a questionable friendship is concerning in and of itself. It indicates poor boundaries and a lack of respect for their partner.

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Anonymous wrote:maybe you should stop picking losers?

Maybe- but I've also had relationships without cheating. It's not pathological- it comes back to my point that *most* (if you want to exempt yourself or your partner from this category, fine) people are capable of infidelity. Some don't even need to be unhappy in their current relationship to cheat.

how do you know? you don't seem very astute, having fallen for the same shit twice.

Maybe there are a lot of people out ther falling for this shit and don't know it? The first time I was shattered and didn't reflect- it was when it happened again that I saw the pattern.

It says more about the character of people that you chose to have relationships with (pattern - stop picking losers). You are the common denominator.

EXCUSE me little ms ignorant the pattern isn't picking losers. the pattern in all probablity is the wife being TOO DAMN selfish as a Lover.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:maybe you should stop picking losers?

Maybe- but I've also had relationships without cheating. It's not pathological- it comes back to my point that *most* (if you want to exempt yourself or your partner from this category, fine) people are capable of infidelity. Some don't even need to be unhappy in their current relationship to cheat.

No, EVERY person is capable of infidelity. A man can visit a call girl and a woman can pick up a man in a bar for a one night stand anytime they want. So what? Most people do not cheat.

Yeah, I guess. But 51% not cheating at any time during marriage isn't much to brag about

When they start saying "we are only friends. Why are you so jealous?" Red flag. Deflecting any suspicious question you have back to you. Red flag. Won't let go of that damn cell phone or BB- red flag. If you have a guy feeling they are cheating, most likely they are

ROFL

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Anonymous wrote:If his face smells like pussy, he is having an affair. Pussy face - dead giveaway.

what if it is a gay affair? cum breathe? ass face? ball sweat on forehead? Oddly fascinated with the design pattern on the duvet?

Yes. Ass face is also a dead giveaway but, happily, more rare.

You sound like my boyfriends wife. I think your list is spot on.

Anonymous wrote:I am so sorry OP and you are right, it really isn't about you. The women who said those things are beyond clueless!
This is one of the biggest reason I find it so hard to be a true friend to a cheater! It can happen to anyone.

Thanks for your compassion- the psychology of cheating is varied. I provided my "list" because I don't think the possibility of infidelity should be dismissed without careful thought. If the partner is not cheating- great and awesome.

I'm not saying everyone cheats, but I think it makes people feel more secure to imagine that it happened to me because I made poor decisions. I will tell you that *no one* would have pegged these two "nice guys" as cheaters. Anyone who knows me, knows I'm not a doormat.

Anonymous wrote:If his face smells like pussy, he is having an affair. Pussy face - dead giveaway.

what if it is a gay affair? cum breathe? ass face? ball sweat on forehead? Oddly fascinated with the design pattern on the duvet?