Your friend

Why do women think men want tall women.

My best friend is the beautiful one. We are complete physical opposites. She's tall, dark hair/eyes, svelte and comes across as a little aloof because she's such an introvert. She walks into a room and men fall over themselves and women immediately hate her - and she's done nothing but walk into the room. The attention always made her uncomfortable which made her appear more aloof which made the guys work even harder to get her attention. In our younger years, especially college, guys would talk to me in the hopes of getting closer to her. She and I both knew what they were doing and it could be funny sometimes. Although, at times, I wished I garnered attention like she did, I don't think I could ever trust a guy who came on to me like that. They weren't interested in 'me', they were interested in what they thought I was.

I got married out here and she was my matron of honor (we were in our 30s and she was here with her DH and 7 yo). DH's friends had met many of my friends but none had met her. When they saw her, it all started again. 'Who is that woman? They took no notice of her DH, they were smitten. We're now past 50, she's divorced. While we both look older, she still looks amazing - she's aged so beautifully even though her personal life has been hell the last 10 years. She still doesn't like that kind of attention.

I had a friend like that when I was younger and it was fun going out with her because we could count on meeting a couple of guys to hang out with. I definitely got stuck talking to the 'less attractive' guy though (and I am sure he thought the same thing. )

Granted I only went out with her once every couple months so it was just fun - if I went out with her all the time it may have bothered me more.

Anonymous wrote:That was me in my youth - at bars, clubs, parties, just walking down the street would illicit wolf whistling or men stopping me on the streets or pulling their cars over to ralk to me. (I grew up in the UK so people aere much more forward). I had declarations of love even from my long-term boyfriend's friends and when I was at university a guy I was friendly with actually dropped out of college because he thought he was so in love with me that he could not face seeing me every day if he couldn't have me. He was crying like a baby - I was stunned and just stared at him. Never saw him again after that.
I found it all quite stressful. I once had two guys tugging me in opposite directions (they were drunk). I was never rude and I agree that that makes guys think you are up for it. I've also been approached by women a few times.

Even here in the US men still look and pull over and comment (and I am left confused - I am 49!!!) but it's usually european men.

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GL

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

Humble brag!

It wasn't really. Nowhere near the European. Most women are pretty so I don't find it odd to say I am. It's a rare woman who a truly irreparably ugly. You're probably somewhat pretty too even if you are a prickly bitch. I was just empathizing that if I, an averagely pretty woman, get tired of attention while out, I can't imagine what a truly beautiful woman deals with.

I only know that I am not a low class, ill bred person like you, who calls another poster a "prickly bitch". This particular information I have gleaned from your post. As far as knowing how pretty you are physically, I do not trust your post, because you do not sound like a nice person - and so in all probability you are lying.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

This is a disgusting comment.

It's not disgusting because it's false. It's disgusting because it's rude to notice. The "I'll stuff myself into these tight clothes, you'll pretend not to stare" game has a veneer of plausible deniability so she can be indignant about the attention she doesn't like and happy about the attention she does like.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

This is a disgusting comment.

I don't think this is. When I go out with my girl friends and hang at the bar, we all get hit on at some point. If I go with the same group of friends and we get a table, the only man who talks to us is our waiter. I really do think that your friend enjoys the attention (don't we all), and knows exactly where to go and what to do in order to get it. This might be your first time out with her, but she has been doing this for years. Good for her.

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

This is a disgusting comment.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

Humble brag!

It wasn't really. Nowhere near the European. Most women are pretty so I don't find it odd to say I am. It's a rare woman who a truly irreparably ugly. You're probably somewhat pretty too even if you are a prickly bitch. I was just empathizing that if I, an averagely pretty woman, get tired of attention while out, I can't imagine what a truly beautiful woman deals with.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

And look at how she dresses. She totally wants it.

I want to agree with the argument that women aren't expecting attention when they dress hot, but I've seen way too many waitresses and bartenders dressing in tight clothes, showing cleavage, etc. when they're angling for a tip. I can't help but conclude that women are seeking some sort of advantage in their personal life when they dress provocatively. They have the right to dress however they want. And sexual harassment is not o.k. But whenever you're dressing for attention, you're going to get bad attention along with the good attention. I think pretty much any woman can dress in a way that will get her completely ignored if that's what she truly wants.

Anonymous wrote:OP, don't be fooled. She loves the attention. If she's in a relationship and going to a bar, then she knows what she's getting into. She's just a master at hiding her enjoyment.

And look at how she dresses. She totally wants it.

Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for her. I am pretty but not as pretty as your friend sounds like and I get grosses out when men obviously check me out. Especially if I'm with my kids. It just pisses me off, like I'm not here so you can leer. It must be horrible to deal with that x 10 everywhere she goes.

Humble brag!

Anonymous wrote:That was me in my youth - at bars, clubs, parties, just walking down the street would illicit wolf whistling or men stopping me on the streets or pulling their cars over to ralk to me. (I grew up in the UK so people aere much more forward). I had declarations of love even from my long-term boyfriend's friends and when I was at university a guy I was friendly with actually dropped out of college because he thought he was so in love with me that he could not face seeing me every day if he couldn't have me. He was crying like a baby - I was stunned and just stared at him. Never saw him again after that.
I found it all quite stressful. I once had two guys tugging me in opposite directions (they were drunk). I was never rude and I agree that that makes guys think you are up for it. I've also been approached by women a few times.

Even here in the US men still look and pull over and comment (and I am left confused - I am 49!!!) but it's usually european men.

I love all these humble brags!!

I have had friends like this + have hated going out w/them...Nothing makes you feel more invisible than a beautiful, drop-dead gorgeous friend. Nothing.

I always wonder how it must feel to wake up each day, look in the mirror and only see perfection. How do those people NOT let it go to their head?? If I looked as perfect as for instance, Kim Kardashian, I would think I would be so stuck-up and into myself that I would be looking at myself in the mirror all day and taking selfie after selfie all day long.